For nearly all husbands in this lifestyle, being a direct witness to the act of coitus between his beloved and another man is a quintessential experience they want and should experience.
As with many other aspects of this lifestyle, compromise is called for here. Though many wives are thrilled from the start to enjoy the cock of another man in front of their husband, not all are equally enthused. Some feel overly self-conscious about being watched during the act and therefore deny their cuckold this pleasure. Others, are simply selfish. Yes, selfish.
Even though husbands almost always desire to watch, it’s a double-edged sword. The cuckold wants to watch for one or more of the following reasons:
- It’s very erotic, from a voyeur’s perspective
- It provides visual detail for them when they mentally visualize you with your lover
- it can be the culmination of years of fantasizing
But, as with most things, there are also elements of watching your wife offer her most intimate pleasures to another man which can be quite difficult:
- Being in the presence of the male the wife has chosen as a sexual superior is very humbling
- Being present invites opportunity for the wife and/or the lover to further exercise the cuckold’s humbling
- The wife has the opportunity to make her husband witness the fruits of his own fantasy which can often be well beyond what he imagined
How often should he get to watch? This is simply a guide and other factors can be taken into account, but as a general rule, for every three times the wife enjoys a sexual experience outside the marriage, one should be witnessed by her husband.
For most cuckolds, little is more precious than being able to clearly imagine in his mind, what it looks like when his wife is with her boyfriend. Of course they will imagine if that’s all they have, but it’s so much more rewarding to know for himself what it looks like when his wife has her small hands wrapped around the cock of her boyfriend in a manner he may have never experienced himself.
Just as it’s selfish for the wife to enjoy her boyfriend privately all the time, it’s just as selfish of the husband to expect to watch every coupling.
Q & A for Wives
Q:What if my boyfriend doesn’t know my husband is aware of our relationship?
A: I don’t recommend this be allowed to continue very long. It’s perfectly acceptable to start out this way, depending on circumstances, but at some point, your boyfriend has to know that your husband is both aware and supportive. Not only does this promote a healthy cuckolding environment, but it also makes the bull aware that someone else is aware of the relationship and makes this more secure for you. But, while the boyfriend remains unaware, your husband can hide in the room/closet or watch through a door left open for such a purpose without the boyfriend knowing the husband is home.
Q: What if my boyfriend just isn’t comfortable
being intimate with me in front of my husband?
A: As I see it, there are only two options:
- Help your boyfriend become accustomed to having your husband present
- Find another bull or an additional bull who doesn’t mind your husband witnessing his exercising of your sex
The bull has a great thing going, doesn’t he? He, too, should compromise. I do agree there are times where the chemistry and pleasure enjoyed with a particular bull who isn’t attuned to the cuckolding idea may be worth keeping anyway, but in those cases I always suggest adding a second bull to the stable or continuing to seek out an even better match.
It’s much easier to find a boyfriend worth fucking than it is a father to your children, a best friend and a husband who is supportive of his own cuckolding. A man experienced with cuckolding couples is likely to already appreciate the benefits of including the husband – a man inexperienced will have to be given the opportunity to learn.
Q: Why would I want to let him watch me?
A: Most of you have already imagined the rush of adrenaline added to the experience by being taken in front of your husband, but there is also a unique feeling of connection and intimacy shared between yourself and your husband while another man is inside you while your husband watches, looks into your eyes and even holds your hand. Cuckolding is a lifestyle a couple is meant to experience together and having your husband watch is by far, the most erotic method of sharing the experience. Often I have linked being allowed to watch to behavior modification or compromises being made by the husband. For example:
- Do you want his support to date your boyfriend publicly?
- Do you want his support to stay overnight with your boyfriend?
- Do you want to tell your best friend about your new lifestyle?
- Maybe you just want more chores done around the house…
Proper Visual Feeding of Your Cuckold
For many husbands, witnessing other aspects of a wife’s relationship with her boyfriend are just as or even more erotic for them than witnessing the intercourse itself. Though I always recommend a cuckold take an active part in helping his wife get ready to see her boyfriend, simply watching her get ready is an incredibly erotic experience for your cuckold.
Some women are inhibited about being watched by their husband because of the graphic view of someone else entering her – so don’t give him that view. The cuckold doesn’t have to witness his wife’s penetration to see and know her boyfriend is bottoming out inside her.
For wives who are dating, I also encourage allowing your husband to follow along on dates.
From the boyfriend’s perspective, having a husband involved can be very rewarding. The more the husband defers to the boyfriend, the more assertive he will be and the more comfortable he’ll be exploring the relationship. For wives not already dating, this is something you should seriously consider. There are many more upsides than downsides for you both and nearly any complication you fear can easily be handled one way or another.
This dynamic is precisely what led me down the path from bull to Dom. For dominant males, it’s a 2 for 1 special getting to experience the husband’s submission as an extension of her submission to me.