Anxiety Management

Anxiety Management

You can’t eliminate cuckold anxiety – you have to learn to manage it.

You know her boss sent you this picture of her as a reward for “…lending your wife” to him, as he gently put it, but he doesn’t realize how seeing this will also be your undoing. She does look stunning and you realize that thong is the last obstacle to him being inside her. Worse, or perhaps better, depending on where in the anxiety cycle you are, is knowing this is only the first day of a 5 day trip. It’s not her first trip on the plane, but her first as his mistress. This means that by now, he is the last one inside her – and he’ll be the next as well.

You already know the corporate jet doesn’t have couch seating, so you imagine her standing, her long legs wide apart while clutching the seat in front of her. He will stand behind her and enter and couple with her her still standing. That image alone makes it difficult not to spurt, doesn’t it? Even letting go and letting your penis twitch all by itself may not save you. You need to spurt, but you dread it. As soon as the last spurt dribbles out you’re going to look at this picture and feel your stomach knot and your penis shrivel as your cuckold anxiety starts winding up.

You’ve been struggling with this, as every cuckold does,  since your wife first told you he was hitting on her – and you encouraged her to cock tease him. Having met him you knew she was attracted to him  – you saw the chemistry between them, yet you encouraged the shorter skirts and the fitted blouses to better showcase her breasts.

What she desires.

It’s only been a few months since he called her bluff  while she was in his office and ‘stole’ a kiss that turned to something more. She had her own taste of anxiety when she came home that night, knowing you’d ask about her day, knowing she’d have to tell you they had kissed. Before she even got to the point where kissing led to buttons being undone and hands slipping into clothing, you were inside her.

“I sucked his cock…” she whispered. You wanted to ask about it, ask about his cock, but that would have to wait until your orgasm subsided.

Now you’re shocked, humbled and yet still aroused. Even after your orgasm, the knowledge that she’s sucked his cock has kept you erect. And worse, she’s was then very aware of how this knowledge had affected you, but yet you were still overcome with curiosity and soon the coupling – and questions continued. It had been a long time since you managed two performances in an evening.

Yes, she’s always enjoyed the feeling of a man becoming erect in her mouth, but you dated her for months before getting to experience that, didn’t you? It could be his position of authority that compels her to orally service him, it could be the superior size and shape of his organ – or it could both. Right now, while you’re erect, that knowledge is terribly exciting, but once you give in and let yourself spurt, this knowledge will weaken you. Fear not: just as you cannot be the lover to her that he is, he cannot be the husband and cuckold for her that you are.

Following her first taste of his cock, he asked her to meet him for dinner the next evening, Saturday, and explained that if she didn’t show up, then he’d just assume this was a one time thing and they could just let it be. If she did show up, then it was assumed that she wanted a sexual relationship with him and he would pursue it as such. Many conversations and (short) couplings later, it was agreed she would go to him.

Saturday went by in a blur, then suddenly it seems – she was gone, leaving only the faint scent of her perfume lingering in the air. It was your turn to cry.

No more teasing; he would truly know exquisite she is – inside and out. 

A body to be decorated for him.

But despite your tears and the knot in your stomach, you were also erect. Very erect. In fact, you had been erect much of the afternoon and especially while she got ready for their date. She wouldn’t let you fuck her Saturday, but she frequently placed her hand there, where your penis betrayed your desire to share her with him. Were it not for that, she would have called the whole thing off, but your penis was very truthful and reassuring for her. She couldn’t deny her attraction to him, but she wouldn’t do it against your wishes.

Your first cuckold orgasm came only minutes later as you imagined them making out during dinner. That’s not how it happened, but that’s how the cuckold mind works. As your semen drained, so did your spirits, the realization of your situation crashed into your consciousness.

Now, only a month since she became his mistress, you look at the picture he sent intending only to share the moment with you and your mind fills with countless erotic images of them together. So what will you do, cuckold, give in to the erotic experience of your wife being his mistress and suffer the anxiety that comes once you spurt – or continue to stay aroused by her – by them  – and hold off that anxiety for yet another day…


  1. **Managing Cuckold Anxiety (Reply) and A Job Better left for a Betterman**

    Anxiety Management as LUVR has so intuitively, and so very, very skillfully explained, is an ingriedient that is of critical importance for the marriage. I know this first hand. My wife has been very interested in helping manage my cuck anxiety. When she feels (or when it is easy to see) that my anxiety level needs a release, Kim will hold me close, my face against her breast (or bra and clevage), and she will tell me that if I am bothered by her being with another man, she will stop this completly. And then, she’ll say, “okay, no worry, so I won’t be with another man again, ever. So let’s not even talk about larger cocks anymore” or “I have no need to be satisfied thru intercourse so you do not need to watch me getting dressed up for another guy”. The fact is, when I hear this, I stiffen like steel, I become exited and free of any anxiety. And yes, I tell her I’m fine being a cuckold. So Kim has taken an active role in managing my cuckold anxiety. That being said, I’d like to call your attention to another anxiety issue. Before I allowed myself to be honest with my wife and myself, and bring cuckolding into my marriage, I was filled with anxiety concerning my penis size and my failed attempts to please Kim. I so wanted her to climax thru intercourse. And “disappointed” became her lifestyle. Being an active cuckold allows me to drop my anxiety ridden concerns about pleasing my wife. I do not need to be concerned with my penis like I was before. Before being cucked I needed to manage the sexual preformance anxiety, and this, is not easily managed. And we all know that a woman who is unsatisfied sexually can be a real cause for tension between the husband and wife. Not to mention that I, myself, was anxious that she was not enjoying sex with me. For sure, being a cuckold is not a free ride, but I can feel good about the pleasure that my wife receives. There were no many signs, for too long, of my wives displeasure. Its not like I would go to a professional basket ball team and say “I want to play for the team”. Likewise I should not have (for 11 yrs) acted like I was able to please her sexually. And I have no such equipment. It is not like my penis would become more meaninful over time. It’s just too small. As a youth in the locker room I felt my own disappointment over my under-size. I had been unfair to her. The most organic and honest thing for me to do was to admit the truth and allow Kim to be with a “betterman” of her choosing. Yesterday in a chat, Luvr told me I was boring him. (I just love & respect his dominant honesty). And that was as a result of just chatting. My wife had 11 years of boring (and sex with a near useless penis). If doing right by Kim, means feeling humiliated, and jealous with some anxiety, then that is what I truly deserve!

  2. a very erotic and informative narrative about the hotwife / cuckold lifestyle ,,, we saw ourselves in so many elements that you described

  3. This is a really interesting story, and very sexy. However this really happened to me and I do think cuckold flaccid penis anxiety is a very important part of a wife needing a lover with a hard cock to satisfy her deep urges.
    My fiancee (we were both virgins, and in high school) and I attempted sex…….I failed miserably with a flaccid useless penis. She then went out and had sex with an older guy with a reputation as a cocksman. Well deserved reputation, I may add. My fiancee fucked him twice during this cheating date……and confessed it to me. Later, after we were married and she had delivered our baby from her indiscretion with the other man, she continued with her infidelity …….her explanation was actually fair, and understandable. My penis which was flaccid and too quick never gave her a climax……she said she needed the other men to satisfy her. And as a stunning young redhead she had many pursuers. In fairness I had to agree with her……and I was finally able to admit how much her infidelity turned me on, and that I wanted her to do more. oddly the only time my flaccid, soft ineffective penis became hard and horny was when she had just been fucked by another guy.

    • My dick was also going soft and it actually made us fight cuz I wouldn’t finish and I would go soft… when she started fucking other guys I did not have that problem at all so I know what u mean!!

  4. Very exciting. Thanks for sharing with us.

  5. I don’t think I could ever feel anxiety knowing my woman was enjoying her lover to the fullest. I would be so proud of her and of myself for being her main man that she will come home to after her trip. I could only be driven crazy by the fact that she is being pleasured the way she desires and having a wonderful time with him. I would miss her beyond words but my devotion to her would be my strength. I would see to it she will come home to a cleaned house and a proud cuckold ready to wait on her ever need. I never hear anyone comment on what a cuckold does when the woman is away. I would hope my woman would have a girlfriend or another lover come by everyday to check on me and make sure I am doing my chores and most of all behaving. Can any women comment on that subject please. I can see that a real cuckold should not a babysitter but even kids will be bad when mom is away. Why risk it when someone can drop in at times. I know there are many things I don’t know about cuckoldry but the main ideas I would be a great cuckold. Thank you, Glenn

    • Seems I will be doing housework while She cuck me….Altho i have not yet experienced it we have an agreement of sorts….

  6. I think you’d have to be unconscious not to feel some form of anxiety. My anxiety comes from whether or not my wife will enjoy herself. I’d hate to have talked her into this and the result is that she hated it, or her lover was a dud.

  7. Hello Luvr and Other Folks here

    Is this all a fatasy or does this happen for REAL that a rich wealthy man takes another man’s wife on his private jet or yacht and fucks her.

    Do you know of anyone ho has ACTUALLY experienced a wife being taken on the yacht or the private jet of a rich man.

    Please email us on or post your response here.


  8. My wife and I have been occasional swingers for many, many years. We both have had fun with “friends” of each other and people we have met from the internet. We also frequent clubs and have had some wild nights together. It was when we.. or more I discovered that I had cuckold tendencies that this lifestyle crashed over us and took us in another direction. We have had successes and failures…one failure right now which has lead to us leaving the life at this time. Mainly due to not being able to find the right guy…a common problem I know. This means we have fallen into our old life of swinging..together and apart. However, when I read articles like the one above..the familiar feelings within me start to burn and I know deep down that I want to be…am a cuckold. The feelings and anxiety Luvr describes are bang on and it is the anxiety and angst that I crave and miss. With all the excitement and decadence that we can experience with couples and swinging dark and mind blowingly amazing as it can be..nothing compares with my wife dating and meeting men whilst I am denied. The emotions involved are just too powerful, my head is emotions heart wrenched..bringing me to my knees in submission. The love I feel for my wife increased a hundred fold..and our marriage made stronger. Hopefully one day we will be able to find someone for her..and then we can both enjoy the lifestyle once again.

  9. As mentioned before in other places, the reality can be quite different for the cuckold than the fantasy was. A lover for his wife is not just some ethereal cock but a whole man – full of personal eccentricities and features. He is someone that the man of the house would naturally compare and compete with on other levels beyond sexuality. Surrendering his wife to him for some exclusive time can be distressing because of that, and not just the sexual angle. For similar reasons, the wife will often select mates who would not necessarily be the first choices the husband would make. There are different qualities that appeal for such an intimate coupling. Because of those differences in appeal and standards, there can be some feeling of regret for meandering that path. Then there is the protector role of the husband. Regardless of all of the vetting and trust building, there will be anxiety of not being there in between the two or at least in some level of control during their date. That loss of control is how reality manifests itself in startling contrast to those well-developed fantasies that preceded actualizing things. Even if the cuckoldry is expressly based on lost control, the fantasy still dictated how that control would be lost. Nonetheless, it is undeniably exciting and very few who have experienced it do regret doing so. It might not work out due to a number of factors, probably with the inability to select mates suitable to both the husband and wife being high up there. The best advice to give anyway is to refrain from cummming until the wife has completed her date. Regrets, anxiety, and other negative feelings have very high potential in that situation, especially if you are very new to these experiences.

  10. I dealt with anxiety also in our relationship. I think it is fairly common. Best thing for us was having her bf move in with us. I was always afraid she would leave and not return.

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