Hotwife Mating

Fantasies & Realities

Seeing the cycle of life played out through the changes and adaptations of a woman’s body is something to be appreciated and celebrated, but not abused for the point of a sexual fantasy. Having said that, the idea of further expressing commitment to this lifestyle through establishing or growing a family is quite common to many couples. Most of them will never seriously consider it or have a situation supportive of it, but for those who finds themselves as such, I offer a few points of information for discussion.

 

Terms & Definitions

A rightfully proud, expectant mother.

A rightfully proud, expectant mother.

I have changed the title of the article several times now before settling on the current one. I prefer concise titles that most accurately describe the content. I originally entitled his post “Cuckold Pregnancy”, which I felt conveyed a pregnancy sired by someone other than the husband, but have now chosen “Hotwife Mating” since I believe it more accurately reflects the biological imperative and right of a woman to choose her mate, even from within marriage.

I chose not to use the term ‘breeding’ as it is very offensive to some, though in its defense, the term is, I believe, meant to infer submission at the level where a woman (and couple), offer the reproductive choices to their dominant or leave it to fate/chance/nature to decide.

I refer often here to the term ‘mate’, which among our british English speakers refers to a friend or companion rather than the more biological role. Here, I’m definitely referring to the male responsible for fertilizing a woman’s ovum.

In biological terms, procreation is the entire reason women possess the sexual appeal and capacity they do.  If women were meant to only be coupling with one male, only one male would find them attractive, or, after pairing with one male, other males would no longer find her appealing – such is not the case in humans. Mutual attraction can lead to coupling as well as the female’s pursuit of a male she desires as a mate. As a society, we are all programmed to see the words husband and mate as synonymous, but ‘mate’ really only applies to the male or successive males who have successfully impregnated her. This means a wife can have both a husband and a mate in a modern (cuckold) marriage.  I write more about this in Human Mate Choice . This has happened as long as we’ve been around and is the basis for the term cuckold.

 

Mate Decisions For Hotwives

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Attending their coupling.

More enlightened couples welcome the presence of another male in their marriage, but this invitation alone doesn’t mean a wife will or should choose her boyfriend as her mate. The choice of mate for a hotwife can and should be a complicated one; on one hand she loves her husband and always thought he’d be the one to father her baby, but her boyfriend ignites a much more instinctive consideration as a mate. The instinctive choice is really the only choice for the lower mammals, but for humans, there’s more to think about. First and foremost, is whether the husband has the commitment and love for his wife that would enable him to step aside for the boyfriend to become her mate.

For the sake of argument, let’s say the cuckold not only accepts but welcomes expressing the lifestyle in this way – now you have to consider issues pertaining to the boyfriend:

  • Would he expect a role in the child’s rearing – would you want/not want that?
  • What are state laws regarding who is defined as the legal father?

Let’s say those issues are worked out and you’ve written up a loosely legal document that absolves her boyfriend from legal and financial obligations. Now consider genetic benefits:

  • What is his family medical history compared to your husbands?
  • Is he obviously of a different ethnic/racial background?
  • If so, are you prepared for the additional challenge that may present for you as  family?

In some communities a mixed-race birth would barely raise an eyebrow, even to a white couple, but in others, both the couple and the child could face additional challenges. Having said that, some would consider it their duty to bear that burden so such matings can become more commonplace.

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The moment of insemination as witnessed by her cuckold.

Some couples think natural competition between boyfriend and husband is the way to go, but I caution against that in cases where the biological father would not be obvious after birth since you would have no idea whose medical history that child carries.

ready to make a baby together

For some couples, the boyfriend is an obvious choice as a mate for her, particularly in cases where the boyfriend is an overt leader in the marriage, but for other couples the choice is still a traditional one where the husband’s penis will satisfy it’s marital duties of procreation and then, in some cases, be retired as a sex organ in favor of her boyfriend’s cock.

 

Hotwife Mating Commitment

Once a couple – and her intended mate – have committed to a hotwife pregnancy, it’s medically important that the hotwife have frequent exposure to her intended mate’s semen. This will ensure her body is more receptive to her boyfriend’s sperm when she is in her most fertile phase and lower risks associated with high blood pressure during pregnancy.

Disorders during pregnancy often stem from the battle between the immune system and the foetus as a ‘foreign body’.

Many of its ‘foreign’ proteins come courtesy of the father’s genes so if the mother is regularly exposed to them her body is more likely to accept them.

Professor Gustaaf Dekker, from the University of Adelaide, said: “If there’s repeated exposure to that signal then eventually when the woman conceives, her cells will say, ‘we know that guy, he’s been around a long time, we’ll allow the pregnancy to continue.”

seededThe research indicated that swallowing her intended mate’s semen was most effective, but all exposure is helpful. I first posted this in >>Oral Sex Improves Pregnancy Health . Because of this, once the boyfriend is chosen as the mate, intercourse with the husband must be ended not only to ensure the wife’s choice of mate, but to ensure her body has time to be fully receptive to her boyfriend’s sperm.

Oral could still be practiced as long as she releases his seed elsewhere.

 

Cuckold Mating Ritual

Mating for a cuckold pregnancy should be an all-hands-on-deck proposition. One couple I spoke to not long ago took video of their couplings and their Dom required her husband guide him inside each time so there could be no legal argument that the cuckold wasn’t 100% committed to a hotwife pregnancy as a cuckold.

Note how erect he is while guiding a bare cock into his fertile wife.

Note how erect he is while guiding a bare cock into his fertile wife.

Such behavior is not only fitting for a cuckold couple, but a loving gesture empowering both the wife and her chosen mate to make a baby together.

 

Witness & Document

You will both kick yourselves if you don’t document her pregnancy along the way.

At 8 weeks, there’s not the slightest hint of her boyfriend’s baby and at 12 weeks, her belly could easily be mistaken for a few extra pounds, but by 15 weeks, the shape of her belly is unmistakably of a baby. Show off that belly, be proud of the life you’ve created together as a cuckold couple.

 

Cuckold Fatherhood

Being new parents is a challenge regardless of who the mate is, but one of the side effects of being a new parent, for men, is lower testosterone, which enables a more patient, caring dad.

A father’s testosterone level drops steeply after his baby arrives, showing that human males are biologically wired to care for their offspring, a U.S. study out Tuesday showed.

Researchers from Northwestern University, Illinois, followed a large group of men in their 20s and found testosterone levels fell after they found partners and became fathers.

They said the effect is the same in many other species in which males take care of dependent offspring, as testosterone boosts behaviors and other traits that help a male compete for a mate.

nursing her mate's babyI first reported this in >>Baby Induced Role Change.

Since the cuckold’s testicles have no way of knowing if they successfully impregnated a woman or not, this behavior is driven by the emotional state of the husband and the role of fatherhood rather than whether he’s the actual mate or not. The side-effect of this will be to make her mate even more sexually appealing given his testosterone levels will remain high.

It’s important that couples manage their expectations and realize ahead of time that their postpartum emotions are going to run high at times. Something that would be mundane and natural like nursing the baby at the breast takes on new emotional significance for the husband when it’s his baby nursing on that heavy breast. Once the hotwife is ready for dating again, it can be significantly emotional for a cuckold to be home with the baby while she dates her mate, but if the couple – and their mate, have prepared all along and established an effective trust and communication, everyone will be the better for it.

 pregnancy portrait

About The Author

A loving dominant for couples since 1996, Luvr has personally enjoyed introducing and exploring cuckolding and D/s with couples for over a decade. Luvr launched FMSB.org in 1996 as a free community and resource to help educate individuals and couples about erotic cuckold marriages. FMSB.org became CuckoldMarriage.info in 2011.

12 Response to Hotwife Mating

  1. Sophie&Mark on April 29, 2013

    Great Post, Mark and I really enjoyed it. Although I don’t believe we’d ever take it this far, there is something inherently erotic in the thought of another man burying his cock deep within me for the simple purpose of planting his seed. It’s raw, unadulterated and makes me feel like I’m being used as a sexual vessel which is a huge turn on for me. For my husband, the thought of watching a bull’s cock pulsating as it deposits its cum in my pussy excites him immensely and to be honest, we both prefer the term “breeding” to “mating.” As you so eloquently stated, it carries with it a connotation of superiority and frankly, it just sounds fucking sexy. It emphasizes that the bull is superior and is using the hotwife for a sexual purpose which the husband should be capable of but isn’t, due to either inadequacy or the woman’s choice. Very hot!!

    • lildik123 on July 28, 2013

      Hi im new on here . Im pround to say that im being cuckolded by my wife ..she has spoken with her bull anout breeding to which i would be over joyed if they go ahead . Would you consider breeding ?

  2. Sophie&Mark on April 29, 2013

    By the way, love the picture of the cuckold holding the Bull’s cock and guiding it into the wife. Mark just recently told me he’d love to perform this act so I’m glad to see he’s not the only one!

  3. ncbbccuckcpl on April 29, 2013

    This commentary is spot on !

  4. tigerman10 on April 29, 2013

    Great Post . Very interesting and true to life. Thank you Luvr for an excellent piece of writing.

  5. design82 on May 5, 2013

    My wife had a much older man as a lover during her teen years and this affair overlapped into the early years of our marriage. I was aware of him at the time, but only as an ‘uncle’ with whom she was ‘very friendly’ – I didn’t know he had fucked (and was still fucking!!) her.
    It was only some years later that she admitted he had ‘fucked her lots’ and that some of the times she had shared his bed she was ‘wearing her wedding ring’!!
    After the initial shock, I found that I was turned on by knowing that this girl, who I thought only ‘did sex’ because it was ‘expected of her’ (with me, her husband) could actually go in search of a good fucking and would knock on her ‘uncle’s’ door, strip her clothes off, bend over the back of his sofa, and tell him to ‘poke me good!!!’ —– I now wish I could have been there at the time, helping her undress and then even helping to get his cock inside her, and, once he was fully inserted, french-kissing her through numerous orgasms, while telling her what a good slut she is as he fills her up with his cum……….

  6. edandmary on June 23, 2013

    I am encouraging Mar to cock me by being bred by a black man and this post has helped us both ED

  7. lildik123 on July 28, 2013

    Wow thats a real informative text . I have aware for some time that the bulls semen will become accepted more than the cucks . I have experianced this myself with my hotwife ..She always gets thrush if i mix my semen after the bull has deposited , so now she has inforced a toatal ban of my small penis being anywhere near her pussy . And only her bulls seed in her . Has anybody else had any other experiances ?

  8. sissychuck on August 6, 2013

    I agree. It’s a great photo of the cuck guiding the Bull’s cock into the hotwife. Nothing says it better than the cuck helping the Bull guide his cock into the cuck’s wife. it shows support for the activities plus he gets to see first hand how satisfied and happy his wife is being pleasured by a real man.

  9. jezz on October 3, 2013

    For me and many others breeding is the hottest possible thing, irrespective of what is is called. It would be easy to suppose that a bull thinks not far past his ego on this, and that the thought of womens bellies swelling with his progeny is a really sexy thing. It is certainly so for some women, who are so turned on by having their husband submit to this deepest humiliation. Some have worked it out with great care too. One told me that it wasn’t just a physical thing, making babies with a better lover, it was my education and health too. She wanted my kids as I outranked her husband. He said he was willing to concede on that, to support his lovely auburn haired wife as sperm had its way, but for me the statement didn’t ring true. Willing to concede was a bit reluctant. He had to be an enthusiastic, to consistently beg me to do the business, to beg her to come off the pill. Its no small point either because of the legalities of this-the pursuit of fathers who conceive children… support payments and the like. The law varies place to place but you HAVE to think about those things- especially as it can become an obsessive thought for some women during their ovulation week.

    My suggestion is to picture some scenes. The baby being born and who is present. The christening if such is your custom. Seeing husband’s face as your kid suckles on her nipple. What about the school play later on? I guess as a bull I wouldn’t want to be an arms length, off the down the road father. I would expect the husband to acknowledge me as the father, even though he works on as dad. I would want to keep seeing his wife if that was what she wanted too, servicing her, dating-its a radical life style statement that faces off norms. It is a very big ask- and therefore a dream 99% of the time. See what you think?

  10. jezz on October 14, 2013

    To balance off my last appropriately cautious post, here are some points regarding why a hotwife should reasonably want to mate with her bull and harness her cucked husband to the support of the new family. They are arguments, so feel free to debate and reflect!

    1. I would argue that it is instinctive for women to want to produce the best kids and to ensure that they have the very best opportunities in life. Women are arguably hard wired for this role, the advancement of genes, the protection of young. Alpha women have never just been passive recipients of sperm. So a wife with an older and less fit husband might prefer a younger bull. She wants healthy seed. Her spend of eggs has to be a good spend. If she has a compliant husband, then it is natural for her to encourage him to support the union. She may too have convictions about enriching the racial mix of offspring, especially if her bull exhibits traits and attributes that she finds very desirable. There are certainly political arguments in favour of that, if you wish to challenge racist attitudes. But it does require great bravery and commitment, and from the cuck too. I think bulls should continue to be part of things afterwards, so the cuck has to manage the stark realities when others make their own deductions.

    2. Despite social norms of monogamy and conventions about the family as a unit, there are clear economic advantages to mating with her bull and living with both men. If her husband is completely acquiescent, signed up to the new unit, then the woman is supported two fold. She nurtures her children whilst being nurtured in different ways by two men. She is mistress of her home and insists on the alpha role for her bull, whilst reassuring her husband of continuing submissive roles that so many cuck males need. Its not a matter of especially whether she wishes to humiliate the husband. As long as he co operates, then the arrangement continues. ‘John doesn’t make a fuss, I fuck with Leon, that’s just how we live.’

    3. intelligent alpha women have considerable reserve or emotional intelligence, that is they know how to manage emotions and relationships. They can reassure, challenge and excite in equal measure and most importantly, this over time. Nothing runs stale with such women. One lady said to me, ‘I would get exhausted if I tried to run the rut in my house every day, but week on week, month on month, I find new ways to have my husband submit to Ben, and find new ways to help Ben enjoy me.’ This is a woman who is actively building new conventions, their conventions.

  11. new_cpl_ind on December 18, 2013

    I really love this post and have been reading again and again and really think can it happen that my wife’s belly be carrying the real living baby created by a real man or bull which will be life long expression of the love and long term relation between them

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