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    • #14700
      AandZ

        Hello,

        I’m 42 and my wife is 30. We have a loving relationship and we are happy together.

        She has a very high sexdrive and wants sex all the time. I can keep up for the most part!

        When we are having sex we always talk about her having sex with lots of different people. It’s a huge turn on. We have had three FFM encounters and I watched her suck a friend off once.

        We are thinking about taking the plunge into cuckolding. I want to see her pleased and would love knowing that she is enjoying her sexuality. I’m not interesting in having anyone else. Just want to please her and take care of her after she’s had her playtime.

        Here are a few questions:

        Do any of you have any regrets?
        Would you have done anything differently once you started?
        Do you have rules?
        How do you combat jealousy?
        Do your wives have sex with others while you’re not present?

        Thanks for your time.

        Soon as I figure out this site I’ll add a few pictures.

      • #14702
        SubHubAndWifey

          I’ll take a shot. For background, we have been swingers for 10 years, and a cuckold couple only for the last two. But we were able to apply the lessons from swinging to our cuckold lifestyle. We stick to common sense rules (at least they are to us) and fortunately have had no real bad experiences and honestly have no regrets. But if we were ones to rush into situations I’m sure we would have plenty. Move slowly and follow your instincts. As the hubby, be 100% supportive every step of the way! Be her biggest cheerleader and let her know you have her back.

          Jealousy can be a deal breaker for some. I still get jealous, but the jealousy is partly why it’s so hot. When she dates solo it still tears me up a little. You don’t really combat or control it. You use it. You will learn to love it!

          We have a very nice ritual that when I travel overnight for business (about once a month) she is allowed to have a BF over. She dresses for him, cooks him dinner or they go out…. she enjoys the “dating ritual”. All I ask is that 1) he is somebody we have played with together and trust, and 2) she texts me a few hot selfies.

        • #14703
          AandZ

            Thanks for the insights. I guess my biggest fear is the jealousy. I didn’t have it when I watched her perform oral on a friend of ours. In fact I was really excited.

            My wife likes her sex pretty rough. She also likes BDSM. I am just not that into that type of sex. I would love for her to have that knowing it’s what she wants and to a degree needs. I would like to be with her afterwards. Now that turns me on. Maybe take a shower with her or hold her while she falls asleep. It just goes against everything society has to say about marriage and sexuality.

          • #14704
            SubHubAndWifey

              Once you’re in an alternative lifestyle you need to forget about what society deems “normal” and do what works for you. Society tends to reject the cuckold lifestyle so much that many of our swinger friends even reject it – and they live an alternative lifestyle! If what you’re doing works for you and your wife – and causes nobody harm – then do it! When you’re married you need to do what makes each other tick. I think an arrangement with a dom bull may be just what the doctor ordered. And the fact that you got excited when you saw her perform oral on your friend tells me you can handle the jealousy part. The bull will go home and leave you to tend to and care for your lady the way you do best.

            • #14710
              AandZ

                Thanks you! I think it’s time to take the next step

              • #14735
                Luvr

                  Jealousy is a natural response to what happens, but being able to manage our emotions is part of what sets humans apart from other animals. To give in to jealousy and allow it to dictate your behavior, especially in negative ways, communicates the belief that you don’t trust your wife and/or you don’t trust the foundation of your relationship.

                  The idea that a marriage or relationship is weakened or threatened simply by the interest of another male in the woman is not only false, but obviously so. Threats to relationships are always internal first. If there are no threats (weaknesses) internally, then no one can take what isn’t offered for taking.

                • #14736
                  FBKS CPL

                    A-Z,

                    My wife and I have been involved in the lifestyle for about 18 months. We are white and our primary partner is black. I am average at 6′ and he is about 8.5″ and much thicker. When we started out we met with him a few times before having him to our home, that day our relationship changed as I watched as he had his way wit my wife. We were with him a few times together at first and then we progressed to one on one encounters with the two of them. I found this very exciting and was so turned on by it. The first time my wife recorded the entire encounter on her iPad for me to watch later. The second time was at his place of business and I listened over the phone.

                    We do have rules in place. There are no interactions between them without my permission. I have and still do encourage her to make “pit stops” on her way home from work. As for jealousy, we really do not have any. I am fine with them interacting and feel she deserves to have those interactions with a much larger endowed male. We have built a relationship/friendship with him as well. We exchange texts and photos and my wife and him do as well.

                    We have had a few other encounters with a few other black guys as well. She has gotten a Queen of Spades tattoo and wears it proudly. Our only real regret is not doing this sooner. We are both in our mid 40’s. Oh and BTW, this week we start down our road into exploring male chastity.

                    • #14739
                      Luvr

                        Nice contribution, FBKS. Now that you have let her boyfriend (let’s face it, that’s what he is now) earn your trust and you are comfortable with her seeing him on her own, it might be best to step back from topping from the bottom and being the one who approves their time together. Your wife seems to enjoy your role and keeping you informed so I think you have the right situation to empower her further and allow her to dictate their schedule.

                        Just a thought..

                    • #14740
                      FBKS CPL

                        Live,

                        I appreciate your comments but our dynamic is that of a couple. We enjoy the relationship we have with each other and with our bull. I’m part of the relationship not excluded.

                        • #14861
                          Tony

                            Just a comment to add to Luvr’s suggestion, if I may…
                            If you must ‘approve’ of her meetings before hand, are you really providing her the sexual freedom you both want her to have? You seem to be saying she is ‘free’ to do what YOU give her permission to do. It seems to me that it’s one ‘step’ for you trust her to play with others, but a much larger step, for both of you, to trust her to make her own choices and take charge of her own sex life whether you approve of her choices or not. My guess is that she will love you and respect you enormously for that and it will make you two even closer as a couple than you already are. Just my 1.5 cents.

                            • #14997
                              AandZ

                                Tony,

                                I understand your points but I think we all have limits. Totally trusting someone to go out on their own is a huge step and one many people are not comfortable with. I wouldn’t want my wife to have an entire separate life without me. I guess that’s part of having a marriage. I see cuckolding as something that can be done together. I know there are those that feel completely comfortable with total freedom and that’s fine. I just don’t think it would work for us. Thanks for your thoughts!

                                Z.

                          • #14871
                            tc

                              Cuckolding has been a threat, a tease, and a topic of discussion between my Domme wife and me for several years. She admits that she enjoys how the topic makes me squirm, but says that she really does not want sex with anyone else now, though some special attention from another guy might be fun.

                              The furthest she has taken it is to have me buy a Starbucks card for a long time male friend of hers who is aware of our FLR situation and to keep it loaded for him and whoever he buys coffee.

                              I don’t know the guy well and rarely see him, but when I do I feel myself getting excited, though I no mental image of for what.

                              Recently, she tells me that he has offered to consult with her on how to handle me and has asked what I think. Sounds like we could be stepping onto a slippery slope where he goes from friend to consultant, to Bull and eventually works his way right into our house.

                              I’m not sure what I should respond. Part of me is turned on by her relationship with him that I’m not part of and another part is scared of that she’ll start falling for him as this “help” goes on.

                              Even without their going to bed together I am getting the mix of excitement, fear, and jealousy that I read about other guys experience when they do.

                            • #15942
                              Andre

                                ive been a cuckold husband for coming up 30 years dont regret 1 minute of it communication is the key and indulging in activities that both are agreeable to i never had jealous feelings just higher levels of excitement even in the begining my wife always teases me saying your just born that way i believe sexuality is in you just like knowing your gay i couldnt enjoy sex any other way it just feels right for me if you are able to let go and run with your true feelings and throw everything society would tell you out the window and enjoy the ride its agood one

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