Re: In praise of Emily

OWNING EMILY

We own no one, at least in the strict sense of the word. Slavery has rightly been abolished and in the cuckold lifestyle owning refers to something more specific anyway. It refers to first choice sexual preferences, having the right of way when it come to Emily’s pussy. Owning Emily works by mutual consent. She wants that, I want it and strange to hear for some, though not connoisseurs of this blog, so does James. So owning is a commitment. Whilst Emily cannot guarantee it for life (who can?) she is stating that she prefers to sleep with me rather than James and to give me access to sex that he doesn’t have. It works as part of their thing, the humiliation, her domination, exploring what is so arousing for her and for him. Owning for Emily has meant excluding James from coital sex and going with me, or else, guys that I suggest or am happy with. That is why Duncan features, he is part of her domination of James. He is part of her need to submit to certain sort of men-those who rank alongside her, who out rank James.

But I can’t own Emily in this sense without a close engagement with James. Sure I could handle this at arms length, fuck the lady and set rules from a distance that he had to comply with, but Em needs more than that. She wants to see me dominate the guy. She wants to be the prize that he will never win in a perpetual contest that is arousing for all three. So I own James, and i have him do stuff. It is useful, because I reckon I can help sustain the lifestyle this way. I’m close in enough to understand and to care about what they do, although I’m not privy to everything. Give it another few months and I will ask my girl to get a tattoo on her rear, Jezz and a ladybird. Perhaps she will have it on her shoulder, especially if she has come out that she is running her husband around in that steamy way that cuckoldresses do. We’ll know more then, that this is a consuming way to live for all three. James will be happier to say to the most intimate friends, ‘look I love Emily to bits, I adore her, but it’s Jezz that fucks her. That’s what we have decided’. You know something, `i want that more than anything. I want this to work better than ever. That is so unusual, and so scary, because it makes me think again about what Emily means to me.

Somewhere along this journey, when you allow another guy to dominate your wife’s affections something changes. It has never been simply a mechanical thing, a simple fucking. She has always been more tantalising and needful than that. You want her on your arm-out and about. But now, there is a bond, a relationship that is there you hope for good. Yes, this is a woman that you would like to have your kids. That is years down the line right and always subject to a thousand considerations. But you have thought it. As a bull you have encountered a little jealousy and doubt- I didn’t want Duncan to be any good at sex, but neither do I want to fence Em in. These are the signs, the signals that you are committing. I have never wanted a traditional marriage-sex is too big an agenda thing for me. I guess I may still feel horny at 90! But this lady is more than my fuck mate. There is a match of sensual needs-what she wants and i do too. So I have to recognise that, part of the tidal wave. I have to manage James so he copes too. We are getting deeper, my girl and I.

You might say-don’t go there. But the truth is if you don’t, the relationship cannot sustain at a more superficial level. You cannot live, long term, a game. It has to seem more than a game. You have to say I am living this rather than playing at it. I need to talk with James about this. I need to understand if he feels this too. There is hope here. He seems to understand his subservient nature, to adore his wife as a bitch, and me as her man. But it is deep, and it is delicate. We’ll see.