Reply To: Wife admits she loves us “differently”

Cathy has been with her lover for just over 6 years. Last December she told me that she was very much in love with him and hoped that I wouldn’t be upset about it. If I didn’t want it to continue she would stop seeing him. I had to think about it for a few days but I came to the conclusion that during those months prior to her talking to me about it, they had been showing much more closeness and when they stayed at our home instead of his and that I didn’t think anything negative about it at all. I would listen in on their love making and I could tell that there was a difference in what I was hearing, they were being so much more passionate rather than just “fucking”, which I thought was great. I also thought about how they interacted in front of me, showing more closeness and kissing more passion instead of just grabbing and groping as they kissed. They were definitely “in love” and after all this thinking I decided that I would be a fool to break them up because Cathy would have been sad and not very fun to be around. Also, I know that she would have never wanted to do this again because she would be afraid of falling in love again only to have me end it. Really, it’s been a great thing for all of us. I have so much compersion for these two and it excites me to see her so happy to be with him, to watch her eyes dart back and forth looking him in the eyes as he hugs her before they kiss. It’s only inevitable that your wife will fall in love if the man she’s seeing is a good lover, shows his passion for her as he’s giving her the sexual, sensual passion she desires and deserves, and there’s no reason why a woman can’t be in love with two men. The best thing to do is to take a good look at how happy your wife is and decide what you would and wouldn’t accept in their relationship, keeping her needs and desires in mind – after all, this isn’t about us as cuckolds, it’s about our wives. Keep the discussion calm and if you feel it’s necessary, make any rules known and put down on paper and talk about them, and discuss what will happen if the rules are broken or at least, be sure that if they want to break a rule, it should be discussed with all three of you first. Cathy’s lover and I are very good friends, much like brothers. We go fishing together and work on cars and our homes together, like brothers or good friends would do.