Reply To: Does submissive mean, sissy?

Part of the challenge in discussing this is what it means to be a sissy. Before the contemporary definition of cuckolding took hold, a sissy could be any male who simply didn’t meet some subjective standard of masculinity as determined by the accuser. This practice is analogous to any woman being called a ‘slut’ by anyone who chose to judge her based on a perceived understanding of her character based on behavior or even just appearance.

In the case of a male not being perceived as an alpha male – that should classify them simply as a beta, which is what 90% of us are anyway. No one is born an alpha – alphas are promoted to such a role through recognition of their qualities by social peers. One groups alpha doesn’t mean he’s an alpha to anyone else – that has to be earned.

On the other end of the scale are males who choose or are relegated to tasks and roles most commonly associated with females. These males aren’t actually beta males, they are gammas and this dynamic exists throughout much of the chimp and great ape social structures.

Sissy has come to imply its own meanings and culture now and sadly it’s mainly associated with gays and bisexual men more interested in other men than they are in women and men. This is why I am sensitive to the topic in the chatroom – I don’t want this to be a venue about gay male interaction – there are other places for that. But, I do want to foster discussion and provide some clarity to elements in play within the lifestyle.

When being a sissy is an element of the lifestyle, I entirely understand and have no criticism of that, but when being a sissy and feminization, plus ‘service’ to males is the focus of someone’s fetish, I do have a problem with it and feel this is not the venue for such discussions or interactions.

I’m also not implying this thread or those involved fall into this category, I just wanted to add my perspective on what I feel being a sissy really means vs how it is applied these days.