Reply To: Is it important to interact with a bull?

A cuckold has made a choice in his life, in his marriage and in his family life. That choice will forever change it all and more. Once you cross the line, there is no going back. That is a fantasy that will never come true.

You dreamed it. You discussed it. You acquesced to it. You witnessed it in one form or another. You are it. It is who you are.

So, how to handle it? The truth be told, women have married beneath themselves since the beginning of time. Sometimes they are the first to realize this. Sometimes they are the only ones to realize it. But, once in a while – and it is a beautiful thing – the husband gets to realize it first. Or, at least, soon enough to do something about it.

He wants to save his marriage – keep his family, his home, his status quo, his reputation and position in the community. The cuckold lifestyle allows him all this. It beats divorce, heartache, lonliness, despair and dysfunction. It is an opportunity – cuckoldry. It is a gift. It is mercy for a weakened, compromised male out of his element.

In ancient times, he would lose it all and be enslaved or killed. We are evolving into a more civilized society.

How to handle the relationship with your wife’s lover – bull?

It is simply wrong to avoid him. If he is successful – if he is going to be the “one” – even for a time, then you have to deal with him. And, if he is worth his title, he will feel strongly that this should be and will eventually insist on it. Any fool can sneak around and fuck a married woman. It takes a man – a Bull – to come into another male’s home and take his wife from him in every relevant sense, enjoy the experience immensly and be better for it in the end.

Further, these dominant men – bulls – bring a great deal to your wife, your marriage, and your life. We a tremendous amount of life experience, personal and professional success, and nautural abilities as men and as lovers. Many of us have actually provided the couples with whom we have been with marrital advice and counseling essentially. No dominant man wants to see the woman he possesses divorce her husband. The husband is part of the arrangement. He and his role are the “caviar” that go with the “main meal,” so to speak. The submissive husband’s travails are of great interest to us. We want to see and experience all his emotions, anxiety, angst and pain with him.

The cuckold always has questions, concerns and requests. All too often they beat the wife to death with these obsessive questions and worrying, and to no avail. Sooner or later, despite the wife’s reassurances about various things, the cuckold realizes very little of the majority of these issues are up to his dear bride. Thay are up to her lover – her bull – her master. In truth, it is the bull the cuckold must deal with. It is the bull the cuckold must make his peace with – if there is to be any peace at all.

So, yes. Meet your wif’e lover – her bull. The man that, if it works well, will own her and be a part of your married life for a long time to come. Be hopeful that he is that man. It will work much better than her wandering for years searching for that fulfillment. Odds are, you know she has done enough of that already in her life.

Be open and up front. Ask for some of his time in private. Do this in front of your wife. Don’t ask her. Ask the man she has chosen for this role. Let the bull handle having your wife give you and he privacy. He will almost certainly handle it perfectly – whereas you would probably fumble it badly. Talk to him openl;y and honestly. Do not put up false fronts or engage in false pride. It will be obvious, irritate any dominate man and will require a response that will waste everyone’s time. Tell him what you are seeking from the relationship between he and your wife – and you. If necessary, avoid eye contact to show deference and avoid any misuderstandings. Do not look away, but look down. Speak quietly. Explain your concerns, your fears. Ask for whatever concessions you think wise. Be prepared for his decisions. If at all possible, accept those decisions. You have no idea what the long-term consequences to conflict might be. Ask him for a “safety word.” If you have requests, make them up front and respectfully.

Finally, if the bull is willing. Stay and watch anything that is possible. Be prepared for emotional turmoil. Make sure you have discussed this possibility with your wife’s new lover so that if you have to excuse yourself, it doesn’t create a scene that would disturb their lovemaking. Finally, remember there is a lot at stake in handling this well. If life is going to be good, it will be in the lifestyle. Otherwise, it will get rough – because you have to realize by this stage – there is absolutely no going back.