Marriage Evolved › discussion › Lifestyle Discussions › Getting Started › Why are you a cuckold? › Reply To: Why are you a cuckold?

Alex, welcome to the community and the lifestyle. You two currently have an open lifestyle where both are exploring with other partners. This is ok, but it’s not cuckolding because cuckolding places the wife at the center of the experience and since you are not involved and just want to know about it after, you’re not very involved either.
Together, you playing with others and being somewhat disconnected from her play introduces more risk of this becoming less an extension of your relationship and something enjoyed outside of it.
If she were to restrain your penis and be responsible in when its worn, how long, and what your rewards are for giving her this control (including giving up other women while she still dates) you would then be a cuckolding couple and much closer as a couple for it.
All males, especially younger ones, have a very strong need for sex (or at least release) but it’s safe to be denied that release from a medical standpoint. Mentally, it’s this challenge which gives all of this meaning and gives your wife empowerment.
Denial requires a balance of suffering and reward. The solution to enduring forms of denial is to find the mechanisms and rewards to make it worthwhile to suffer for her. These rewards can be physical in nature, in terms of how you get release when given it as well as more mental/emotional benefits like knowing how much she values your denial and how much your penis being disabled helps her enjoy a thicker cock inside her.