Reply To: A Winning Combination?

It seems that as much as we’d both love for my wife and C to be seeing each other much more often, for the foreseeable it looks like once a month at best. His diary of work events and associated travel plans and the renovation of his house boat being the stumbling blocks for planning get-togethers. C is also somewhat of a commitment phone too. My wife and I have discussed this several times and at length and for the purposes of not falling completely in love, that’s great for us. My wife now has him at “special friend” level. She loves his company and she loves his sex. He on the other hand seems to be quite blasé about what they are doing. For now, I think the arms length approach he has is his own safety buffer, to stop him getting hurt by committing too deep? When they are together though, his affection towards my wife, on the surface, is strong. He’s either a very good actor or he has issues and we think it’s the latter from the conversations they’ve had. As things stand though, my wife is committed and has every intention of slowly breaking down any anxieties he has.

My wife is a very organised individual. So much so that you could say that she is a borderline control freak. C on the other hand is the complete opposite and his entertainment business (more or less run by his best friend) allows him to just float through the days carefree. This means that while he’s floating with the fairies, he’s not really thinking at all about the next sex session with my wife. It’s a very strange place to be I would say. From a man’s perspective, I’m thinking “what’s wrong with this guy”? He has sex on tap from my wife (and he’s only scratched the surface of the kind of sex that is available from her) but it’s my wife that gets frustrated by the knowing when she can next enjoy him. As I said, she likes to be organised and well planned. Which brings us to the next interesting state of the affair.

My wife was talking with C’s female business partner about C and the various work commitments they have coming up and how my wife wants to go away with C for a weekend. C’s partner said that a free weekend is going to be hard to come-by over the next month or two. Perhaps a couple of mid-week days together could be arranged? In the meantime, his partner would schedule a date that is certain, for my wife to visit him again on his boat. And so my wife is booked in to see him in 3 weeks time. How crazy is that?!? He is or wasn’t aware of the date but his partner will or has told him that he is seeing my wife on a given date. No consultation or anything. It’s just booked, locked and loaded! My wife and I laughed in disbelief together when she filled me in about this development. It’s like something out of rom-com! Anyway, it ticks my wife’s organisation boxes so she’s happy.

We also discussed how my felt that I wasn’t getting the maximum benefit from the relationship and it is something that she is going to work hard to improve. The initial goal is for us all to meet up at some stage. At this stage I can only imagine the circumstances to be quite formal, like dinner perhaps but not between the three of us. I think his anxieties will mean that his business partner and best friend will be there. That way, it’s less likely for the gooseberry effect to occur. I have let my mind wonder on this scenario though. Thoughts along the lines of seating arrangements? Would my wife want to be sat by my side or C’s side? I’d like the latter personally! Should I offer to leave early and alone so that they can finish the evening together in whatever manner they choose? How would the interactions go down? Would there be overt flirting between them? Stuff like that. I know logically that that is same way off down the line, but in my heart of hearts, some level of humiliation for me would go some way to making things so much spicier than it already is! Only time will tell.