Reply To: A little advice please, where do I fit in all this?

Dave,

You’re making the right call. While I know that it is hard to forgo your fantasies, this has to be about your wife’s wants and desires. If she feels forced into it, she won’t enjoy it; if she doesn’t enjoy it, you won’t enjoy it. That will not only ruin the fantasy for you but also likely harm the marriage. It is just not worth it.

When I meet couples, if I get the sense that the wife is being forced into the lifestyle, it is an immediate red flag. Those husbands are putting their own desires ahead of their wives and that is a major concern.

Finally, sorry to hear about her medical issues. Hopefully, she will be able to recover and get back to full health. You never know, a recovery may increase her self-confidence and get her interested in exploring those desires. Fingers crossed for you both.

Eric