Reply To: MY WIFES BOYFRIEND

Things are going well. I feel like I have arrived at a place of acceptance when it comes to our arrangement. It was one thing for my wife to fuck a guy on the side, but it’s quite another when this man is so involved in our life and knowing that my wife is in a relationship with this man. What was the biggest challenge for me wasn’t the sex if you can believe that. It was the difference with how she acts with him compared to me. The way she looks up at him when his is speaking. He has a commanding presence which shines a light on what I am not. My wife’s friends all accept him as “her man” and even my daughter really likes and respects him.

Sometimes when I see them together, I remembered a conversation we once had “You know I love you, but I feel safe around him, he isn’t a victim”

I was incensed at being referred to as a victim. She laughed and tried to clarify what she meant. “I meant that you are a sweetheart, and I love you, but…you are kind of a pussy. And I need the masculinity he provides”

What’s really twisted is that after my initial anger the humiliation of all of it get me extremely hard. He comes over a lot now. And I have learned to accept him in my wife’s life. I understand why she feels the way she does about him. I have to admit that his is a good-looking man and is rather intimidating. It is like he is a bad dude who is choosing to be nice. He is generous and charismatic. He pays for my wife to get her hair and nails done and sometimes has me come out with he and my wife to dinner. And then, when he is ready. He will throw my wife on the bed and fuck her, while I sleep on the couch and get to listen to them fuck.