Reply To: Struggling with fantasy of seeing my wife with someone else

Take it slow, don’t push it on her or it will backfire. As was mentioned, be honest with her. Take her to a nice dinner and hold her hand and tell her how much you love her and how you feel that she deserves so much more than what you can provide to her in the way of sex and intimacy. Explain that you have no desires to play with anyone else, you just feel it would be so wonderful for her to have a lover, someone who can make her feel desired, give her the orgasms she deserves. If you take it slow and guide her gently into the arms of a great lover, you’ll finally get to enjoy the excitement of knowing that she’s regularly in the arms and bed of a better man, and spreading her legs for him without worrying that she’s doing something wrong.