Reply To: Wanting to tell a partner, but how?

To start it all off, don’t do it while you’re in the middle of sex because it just looks like you’re trying to amp up the sexual excitement with the “sharing” thing, so she’ll just take it as “horny talk”. Take her to a nice restaurant with private tables/booths where you can sit and talk to her without others nearby overhearing your conversation. After you’ve ordered your meals and have drinks on the table, hold her hands and tell her how much you love her and that you would like her to have an open mind to what you’re wishing to talk to her about. Explain how you feel without sounding “horny”, try to get her to understand that she’s the most important thing to you in the world and that you would really like to see her having more “excitement” in her life, tell her how you think she’s so very beautiful and sexy and that she could have an amazing time being pleasured by a boyfriend.

Be sure to tell her that you’re not looking to play with another woman so she doesn’t have to think that you’re only doing this so you can justify finding a playmate yourself. Ask her to at least look at what other women and couples are saying about the lifestyle, how they found that cuckolding has improved their relationships and even saved marriages. Explain that it’s not just a “sexual” thing, it’s a change from the dull norms of life and marriage and she’ll be able to enjoy a lover without thinking that she’s “cheating” on you, she won’t have to hide anything from you at all. Also, explain that you’re not wanting her to do this because you want to watch her, explain that if she would like to be alone with her lover then you feel that she should have that alone time with him, but if she wants you there, then you’ll be there for her until such time that she feels comfortable with her new man.

The conversation can go in many different directions but don’t allow it to get out of control. If she doesn’t want to discuss it at all then don’t push it, just tell her that you respect her wishes and won’t bring it up again unless she decides that she’d like to know more. But if she’s at least willing to listen and learn, then offer to show her this site and other decent cuckolding sites, let her read the stories and comments and even go on to chat with other wives such as myself. Explain that there are some men out there who are only looking for the sexual excitement of chatting about cuckolding, but in most cases aren’t cuckolds at all, but there are a great deal of “real” cuckolding men and women online who are honest and know what they’re talking about, and many of them, such as my self, are very willing to talk to others who are curious about the lifestyle. I have been cuckolding Jerry for 16 plus years and I have been seeing a wonderful man for the last 6 years and I have (for the first time ever) fallen in love with him, and Jerry is very happy for us. I enjoy talking to other ladies who have had thoughts about having a lover. I have guided several ladies in the lifestyle including one of my own best friends who is now cuckolding her husband much to his delight. Maybe in the near future you’ll be telling others about how wonderful it is that your lovely wife is spending a night or weekend with her lover.
Good luck,

Cathy