Re: Cuckolding – Risk to a Marriage?

Yes, I've seen/known couples to break up during or because of cuckolding, but most likely, cuckolding only hastened what was inevitable anyway.

Cuckolding amplifies whatever it is you have. If, on balance, you have a healthy, loving marriage, then cuckolding, practiced properly, will bring you even closer together and provide a more intimate relationship even as her intimacy with a lover grows. If, however, your marriage is troubled and you look to cuckolding to resolve this for you somehow, you're going to be disappointed.

When I first started in this lifestyle, I didn't give nearly as much thought to the basic health of a couples' relationship before getting involved with them as I do now. I was fortunate in that the first couples I came into contact with had a very solid relationship and their experience with cuckolding only improved it. A couple who would have been my third couple was not such a couple. They were quite dysfunctional in a few ways and though her husband did prove to be accepting of her interest in dating me, it only took meeting them a few times and talking more in depth with her to realize they were essentially two people living together rather than a couple in a loving relationship. They had seen fantasy, including her dating others, as a way of giving them something to share. Yes, that's a cornerstone of cuckolding, but when it's all you have as a couple, it's not enough.

Having said all that, I don't get that feeling from talking to you. Simply hearing of your careful exploration of this and of her concerns, I come away with the feeling that you two are well-situated to begin exploring adding the role of lover to your marriage.