Re: Genetic Propensity

A recent study was released from the Kansas State University and the National University of Singapore.   There is a gene called the “10-repeat allele” which in essence creates a tendency for those with the gene to be leaders.  That is in addition to being rule breakers and adventurers.  We are all made up of a mix of genes and their dominance is effected by competing genes and life experience.

With regard to survival of the fittest, aside from the dominant men who got to spread their seed everywhere, there had to have been other factors affecting our genes.  There were women who were able to continue reproducing because they were able to submit to conquerors.  There were men who’s children survived because they were able to share their wives with stronger or more powerful men.  There were men who spread their seed because they were able to submit to the wife’s of slave owners or even business owners.

Sexuality has always been a fascinating topic for me and some things are clear.  Women can out fuck men every time.  The early laws and biblical writings show that the men who made the rules found women to be out of control with sexual desire. When society became paternalistic and property rights were an issue, it was time to put some restraints on the ladies. But female sexuality was pretty strong and not easily eradicated from the genes.

I’m pretty certain that I have a good dose of that leadership gene since I have always been a leader, from childhood groups to my first job and most of my career being a supervisor and on up in administrative hierarchy.  I have absolutely no desire to be dominated by other men, to tolerate any insults and definitely not to give up any opportunities for sex with my wife.  She has plenty of libido for me and other men.  Depending on the scenario I am able to respect my wife’s desire and that of her boyfriends for them to be together while I give them space.

When I had health issues and could not keep up with my wife’s needs I began to consider her needs more.  I also began to consider what I was raised to avoid.  The fact that women are very sexual.  I suspect my wife has more than her share of those nymph genes.  Since I am older than her,  and with some health problems, it’s clear to me that she has needs to be met by more than just myself.  It took a while to get through the jealousy etc but now I can actually enjoy seeing her get ready for a date and being satisfied by other men. She hasn’t done it lately but she has done quite a bit of “cuckolding” over the past few years, sometimes even against my wishes when she and her boyfriend couldn’t get enough of each other. .  She loves MFM so even when another man is involved, I am not necessarily left out.  Since some of my health issues have improved, we have great sex together but I suspect not often enough.   I also realize that the other men have th advantage of not playing the home field.  It’s an accepted fact that a new lover has the advantage at giving a woman stronger orgasms.  I am hoping that I have enough of the submissive genes to give her the room she needs if she meets another guy she enjoys sex with.  I recognize the fact that I may need to adjust to her dating and playing sometimes without me. 

I have been amazed at some of the insights from this site that reinforce and clarify some of the experiences we have had.  We had never even heard of a cuckold or a hotwife when we decided to explore swinging but because of my health and age, bang, this makes more sense.  I can’t see spending any of my sexual stamina on other women.  My wife on the other hand has plenty of libido.

Age can suck but I wish we had started swinging much sooner.