Re: Baby Induced Role Change

Avery interesting post. A similar thing happened to me after my wife had her fourth child. She was still of childbearing age and is just within it now. I dont’t think there is anything biological going on or even some sort of hidden human behaviour. As a normal male you absolutely love your child no doubt of that. You become a dad and that in itself pshycologically makes a difference in that the last ” dad” she had around her was he own dad. Therefore you have matured into a different role. She will start t see you in that role. A father is not a sexual role it is a provider and so on. Up until the current generation say of 20 to 30 year olds now a father figure was more authoritarian and so on. As you swooned around the child/children a softer side was seen, very positive and good for all of us. However your partner has no mental cognitive equipment to deal with you as a dad, softer side, and you as a lover perhaps harder more male side. The current generation are slightly different as they have been reared by softer perhaps better more empathetic fathers who took far more to do with them as children.If I am right young women may be able to balance the softer dad side with their more carnal desires and the young will be able to mix and match better.Young educated people are also far more understanding of relationship needs and so on.In fact cuckolding may even be a one off phenomena which affected one generation, those who were liberated enough to look outside the marriage but also repressed enough to want to. A generation brought up by 1950s parents who had marriage underpinned by religon and society and often married because they were at the age when you do. Young women who would now be 40s to 50s only saw their fathers in a particular way and were not prepared for the ” new man” which arose in the eighties. Their mothers just gave up sex at about 35.I suffer from this because try as I might my wife cannot get beyond me as a dad of the kids and her attitude to this role coupled with her view of her father is nearly impossible to break down. I could not become a dom male to her if I tried for a start she is domestically dominant she runs the domestic areas washing cooking and so on therefore she will see the need to nag a bit from time to time I am sure this strikes a chord with some or many.I have a domestic and economic relationship with her. In some respects she is the cleaner and I am the bank manager and in other respects she is the boss and I am a messy kid.Hardly fertile ground for mindblowing sex. However her lover who was also in that situation at home only worse as his wife earned more than him, was not in that relationship with her. To him she was a tasty little married slut and to her he was a handsome sexy man. You have solved the dillema by allowing her lover to have his way and she is happy you continue with the domestic. The only problem I have, and this is real for cuckolds, is where do we get that relief of having a relationship with a woman just for her a proper sexual relationship. I dont think cuckolding will entirely answer the problem. Personally I have a close lady friend who is aware of everything and needs me for other assistance at this stage not sexual but very very close. I could not exist wihtout her.