Re: Wife is having Lover’s Child

You seem quite brittle in your response to things. Personally, I could never relate to having another man inseminate my wife. There is too much responsibility involved in bringing up kids and, as you are finding out, it is very complicated in your situation. You are an idealist, don’t you think? A baby changes everything. Your relationship to Onye will undoubtedly change, also. You’ll probably evolve into two loving fathers, or at least something like that. Certainly two involved adults. You might enjoy the change. It might be relaxing to become more friendly with him. You imply that your love for your wife comes from a deep level of purity and some other cuckold’s (one who lets his wife go off with her lover without him) love is somehow less. On the surface, it isn’t. Why not let things happen a little more instead of trying to lead from behind? It might be painful change at first, but significant and beneficial change in the end. To me, cuckolding should be about personal growth through submerging one’s ego. However, life can be tricky and we can fool ourselves into thinking we are egoless, when , in fact, we are completely self absorbed. You’re obviously a sensitive man with a lot of useful attributes. Your wife knows that. Why not let Onye see it , also. Will take confidence, though. Fake it till you make it. Good luck with your new life. Be a good daddy and try to do the right thing for everyone.