Re: GF agreed, now what?

Hi Luvr and Jezz, thanks for all your advice!

Well, things have made some progress. I talked to my gf about some of the topics you pointed out – specifically the initiation protocol. We agreed that, while she wants me around both for including me in the process and for security reasons, she’ll lead the offensive on her own, and if the time comes, at least the first times she will have sex alone with her new lover. To be honest I’m feeling kinda nervous, I have mixed feelings about this but still feel very excited about it all. She seems to be slowly making suggestions and taking the initiative which is good (I guess).

On the matter of the lover, I think we have a candidate. The guy’s a friend of a friend of hers, she finds him attractive and interesting enough. Both of us don’t want her to date a jerk, a gossiper or an immature ass, so she’ll be very careful in this “getting to know him” stage. She’s very very self conscious over the “feeling safe” issue (again, she wants someone with whom she can sleep besides safely), and I think its the right way to go, you cannot be too sure. Thing is, we’ll be in different countries for a couple of months, so I don’t know if I should give her the green light on the matter. I don’t know if it would be easier or harder to do it like that, so any advice would help.

On my end things are a bit tricky. If I can be honest, I’m in an emotional rollercoaster with this, most of the time I want the whole experience badly, but sometimes (specially after I jerk off) I don’t want anyone possibly touching her (but the desire comes again after a while). Is that normal or is it a signal that I’m not ready still? again, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Well, thanks guys, let me know what you think!