Re: When her boyfriend controls our sex

What I think we’re referring to here is an evolution of attitudes and roles. Whilst all couples are slightly different, some typical change in thinking might be as follows:

Bull: (thoughts) this guy is no competition for me, he needs I guess to try it on for a short while, to have a little space to do his thing, but the comparisons are going to be telling. This beautiful babe is going to get fed up with inadequate seconds, she will demure a while about saying so, and yet it feels sexy too, admitting how inadequate her husband is in that department. She will get caught for a while, consoling him, exciting me, saying that she wishes I did all the fucking from now on. So there will come a day when I say to him, ‘pussy is now off limits to your cock man , you have to use your tongue instead, and then only when I say. When you lick its to pleasure her, always in her service, do you hear? No cock seconds.’ Its direct, harsh perhaps, but once he is submitting to my control, I can work with his wife, helping her to become his mistress. I’ll help her become accustomed to working that tongue, enjoying a different sort of orgasm on it, one that spells female domination in her pretty head.

Hotwife: (thoughts) I’m anxious about the change, about how i will seem. I do so want both men in my life, but my bull is my bedroom mate-he rules and I wish my husband would get on accept that. I want to be owned by my bull and hubby needs to concede that. Hubby and I will still retain all else in our marriage, but the sex will be different. He will do as my bull says, he will pleasure me in ways that my bull wants. Dear God, this is so sexy, so forbidden, but I want it. I want my boyfriend to boss my husband around. We’ll work out the details as we go-just as long as I get more and more of what I’ve discovered and so desperately need. I’ll help hubby…I will.

Cuck husband:(thoughts) This is so humiliating and yet it alarms me that the humiliation is exciting. What will she think of me, what will she do if I say to him, ‘look you’ve won, you fuck her so much better than I. I’m ready to take your instructions?’ Will she walk, disgusted by my weakness, missing the gift that this is meant to represent? Will she humiliate me after that-if so, can I cope with that, do I need it? I do, I don’t, I get stiff thinking about it and I’m sure that I shouldn’t. Perhaps if I talk to him, find a joint way to please her, so she sees that we can work out roles, those that put her centre stage of everything?’ This so arousing, so needful, and he is so cal m and assured, no wonder she prefers him.

Does it work to a formula-I think not! There are doubts, back tracks, pauses, diversions, but for many, the true cucks and hot wives, they find a way to this separation of roles, the ascendency of the alpha couple. The submissive instinct finds a new route-hotwife to bull, cuck to hot wife and an equilibirum emerges. Scary emotions Rally are the norm and healthy. You realise the import of such a change. Its not something that longer term is a game, its a chosen lifestyle. You would be crazy not to have doubts, not to ponder this carefully. So much depends on emotional intelligence, hers, the bulls and your own. This is so different to social norm living from the past. As the Cat Steven’s song went, ‘take your time, think a lot, think of everything you’ve got, you will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not.’ Be clear about the dreams then.