Re: In praise of Emily

Johnny-thanks for being so very kind in your comments. I think you’re right that the after effects of denial depend on the teasing too. Teasing ramps things up. But I meant what I said. Women who have their husbands give head during prolonged denial do seem to switch a sperm production off. Its as if there is a deep physical/relationship function for the pheromones in a woman’s scent. Not pc to say it perhaps, but this is perhaps a long lost hidden female way of controlling sex and through that breeding.

Regarding my posts. I believe that the bull has to be responsible and help the lady manage her submissive husband. But I was struck by how little is shared in forums by bulls. Its as if they are too secret about pleasures, certainly about what they put back into a menage a trios. Perhaps some bulls just take-I cannot tell. If so, they threaten couples and that’s not on. I honestly believe that a couple that are daring enough to include someone like me, deserve my consideration. I know that I am dominant (I love being masculine with a woman), that I contribute to the submissive male by directing him, exciting his wife about being centre stage. But this involves emotional effort, some ups and downs and yes some speculations and doubts on my part as well as theirs. I am not a cardboard cut out, and neither are Emily and James, so it seems important to discuss the emotions, the taunts and the teasing that go around and around between cuck, cuckoldress and bull. In this case that involves a mother too. Margaret is amazing and what we shared at Christmas is so unlocking things for her. I meant what I say about sex and sexuality-we hide so much, pretend to ourselves, and when something like this does happen (rarely enough), it throws open all those debates and questions. The four of us will need a lot of wisdom…if this is really to work and to last. I want it to. I like them all- but Emily is exceptional. So I will add to the posts and yes that will include the difficult as well as the exciting bits. If that helps you and others then I am made up.

You might wonder what drives this bull? Well, there are a few things. First, a belief that people have different sexuality, and that some are warmly approved of in society and some are suppressed. Once upon a time gay folk were supressed and its a delight to me that they can live their lives openly. I’m not gay. I do though believe that women who are more dominant, who wish to direct a weaker male deserve space and freedom too. Its always seemed unfeminine for a woman to insist on what she wants, to be instinctive about sex. I believe that submissive husbands have their sexuality to explore and that in consequence an intelligent and supportive bull has a role. Cuckolding folk may be a small minority, but others may not yet have explored their identity and needs. I suspect many watch and wonder, and the wondering isn’t resolved completely by clips/pics and captions of what seems raunchy.

I’m not on an interracial kick, though can fully understand the sexiness of all that. Breeding is a turn on, but honestly you would need to be with a couple for ages before you chose that route. I would want to be involved with the kids and make the cuckoldress a sort of earth mother at the centre of it all. A bit radical perhaps. I guess it would be a turn on because the three of us (in such a situation) defied social convention and insisted that we will live our way. But there are big challenges for all concerned. I’m sure its not that common a way forward.

Whilst I love the physical side of cuckolding, showing off and handling a beautiful woman well, I also love the psychological stuff. The brain is the biggest sex organ. Some women, like Emily, are exploring that. Discussing this takes a good few words, so thanks for your and indeed others’ patience with the longer posts.