Re: Denial

I applaud the use of any rules/customs/rituals as they provide a common understanding of how things should work. I disagree with the denial period after her dating because I find the denial period prior to a date much more important and more importantly because the necessity for a couple to reconnect and share the dating afterward to be absolutely necessary. Granted, that sharing doesn’t have to include intercourse and it doesn’t for some, but those couples are generally ones where the husband’s penis would provide little to no real satisfaction for his hotwife (most often due to stamina issues).

You are also not alone in being a bit uncomfortable with the ‘bull’ tittle; I’ll explain where that comes form for your and anyone else’s benefit.

The term ‘bull’ is borrowed from farming/ranching where a male is introduced for one singular purpose: breeding. While we humans are more complicated than that, the term carries over as a means of identifying a male introduced into a marriage for a singular sexual purpose. This is also why there’s a very stated difference between a bull, a boyfriend and a Dom.

A bull is just in it for the sex; he’s an opportunist. When that bull becomes more involved, becomes a long term lover and/or other bond form, a bull can become a boyfriend. When said boyfriend displays the assertive attitude and experience necessary to play a leadership role in a marriage, he becomes a Dom.

I don’t often use or encourage the use of the term ‘lover’ because I find it vague, flowery, and often used in place of a more concise term like boyfriend because that term carries significantly more emotional impact, but should be used if that’s the case. Just my opinion.