Re: Cuck or Not to Cuck

Sage advice from Mercator.

I would add that the risks are largely yours to control. It’s your marriage and your relationship so any threats to it are yours to identify and manage. That begins with managing them before they happen. What does that mean? It means making sure any guy she’s with knows that he’s an addition to the marital relationship, not a replacement for it. This can’t always be expressed before a wife becomes a hotwife, but it can and must be communicated afterward as soon as possible.

Generally, if this is something exciting for you both, even if for different reasons, it’s not much of a threat to your relationship after the fact. The overwhelming odds are you’re both going to love it. You may have a less than stellar experience with a particular guy, but the idea of her being shared outside your marriage will still be an enjoyable idea. It’s not unusual for couples to take a break from this for a variety of reasons, but once a couple enjoys this, it’s generally going to be part of their marriage moving forward.

Don’t be afraid of her forming bonds with her bull – that is, the bull becoming a boyfriend. This is something to be celebrated. The bond isn’t the threat – allowing it to come between the husband and wife is and that is primarily the wife’s responsibility. She does that by being aware of what behaviors may be risky and communicating them to her husband so they can be assessed. If need be, we are always here to assist in sorting out these issues as well.

Best of luck to you both. It would be lovely to get you verified as a couple and even featured so we can all track your progress into the lifestyle. Contact me directly if you have questions or further concerns.