Re: New obsession

@noneya71 said:
Hello,

I have been reading this site for a week or so and thought I would say hello and provide a little history. My wife and I are in our forties have been married for 15+ years and we have three kids all boys. When we first got together we could hardly keep our hands off each other. Like most couples over the years our love has remained strong but the sexual aspect has begun to wane. We still have sex regularly (2-3 times a week depending on life) but that lusty passion that once was has waned to the point it is more just routine. We have explored many popular fantasies, introduced some toys(vibrators for the most part) and done the whole role playing thing over the years.  We have shared fantasies of threesomes both MFM and MFF (both my ideas) and we have played those out during pillow talk. We always lean towards the MFM fantasies since she would get uncomfortable thinking of me with another woman but was quite turned on by the idea of being shared. During these role playing moments I was always excited by the idea of her being taken by another man but it was not until lately when I took to the internet looking for ways to spice up our sex life that I came across this hotwife/cuckold fantasies and the light bulb came on for me.

I think I have jerked of more in the last few weeks then I have in my entire life. I have not brought this new obsession to my wife’s attention yet as I am afraid of where it could lead. It seems this lifestyle is not easy to maintain and I have noticed a lot stories that have not ended well. I also don’t like the idea of giving up sex with my wife completely or being humiliated. The turn on for me would be bringing that new relationship lust and energy back into our relationship through vicarious means. Since my wife is not comfortable with the idea of me being with another woman and I am turned on by the idea of her with another man this seems like what could reinvigorate our sex life and bring that energy back. I know the best course is probably to begin introducing the idea slowly and with a lot of honest communication. My wife has a tough time being honest when she thinks or in some cases knows the truth might hurt me. I will have to work really hard at making her comfortable expressing her honest feelings.

I would love to hear other members thoughts and experiences getting from where I am to where you are in your relationships.

Hi

New here also.

Both my wife and I are mid 50s, empty nesters.

My wife has been with her old boy friend a few times now and its been fantastic every time. We are all 3 talking about this life style and how it has helped all of us. Last week at dinner Don asked me what would i like? I looked at my wife and said, I would like to see you both deeply in love and making love, not just fucking. My wife looked at me and then looked at Don and said YES she would like this very much. Don looked at me and said “I have deep respect for both of you for inviting me to do this” Don has been widowed for 3 years now.

Hearing this made it so much more passionate for us.

Later after Don left my wife and I were talking. She said she is going to like this. I told her that there is something i would like also? What is that she asked. You know how much i like lingerie? Yes she replied. I would like for you and I to both be wearing garters, stockings, bra, panties, slip while you are with Don in our bed, his or out on the town. Her reply was thats it? Yes besides watching your love making and hearing about it.

I will stop here as not to make a huge long post.

Enjoy