Reply To: Are we born this way?

Yes. I think so. As for me, I spent much of my life fighting and compensating my sub tendencies. It wasn’t until we started dabbling in swinging that it became crystal clear that I am no alpha. If you go into the swing lifestyle thinking you are gonna be “the man”, it usually doesn’t long for reality to set in. We naturally progressed toward the cuckold couple we are now. But I am in charge of people at work, so I spend my days pretending to be the alpha male that I know I’m not… and that can be very difficult.