Reply To: Does submissive mean, sissy?

I would say that being a submissive does not necessarily mean you also have to be a sissy, but think the two are often linked. I would also agree with one poster who felt that being a submissive, even if not a sissy to begin with, naturally moves you in that direction.

That’s true in my own case. Although a cuckold from the beginning, and recognizing that I was a submissive, as I’ve become even more submissive I’ve found myself becoming more of a sissy.

My wife has made it clear from the beginning that she prefers erotically dominant men. Men who, as she says: “Know what they want from her, make it clear to her what they want, and make it clear that they are going to take it, and do!” She’s always made it clear that I was a failure in that regard, and that was one of many reasons why she turned to other men for her satisfaction. She likes to be used, and I’ve always found it most exciting when she was with a man who used her. I loved getting the bedroom ready for them, bringing them drinks, and being made to sit and watch while the man satisfied her in ways I never can. It was even better if he was verbal about it, humiliating me by telling me how wet and tight her cunt was, or how he loved making her cum so hard. My submissiveness really came to the front when she or the man would order me out of the bedroom, or when she’d tell me she was having someone over and wanted to be alone with him (or that he wanted to see her alone), and I’d have to leave while he was there.

From the beginning, too, my wife knew I was bi, and that I loved sucking cock. When she’d have men over who were ok with that, it was a real thrill to me to have her tell me to get them hard and ready for her…that progressed over time into me cleaning her after they were done..even better was when I’d get to clean their dripping cocks after they were done with her!

And yet through a lot of that, the thought that I might be a sissy didn’t enter my mind. Until one day something clicked – I realized just how much I was turned on by being submissive to the MEN who came to enjoy themselves with my wife. That did it..almost as if a door had been thrown open. Suddenly, I realized I could easily be a sissy for those men…and that I wanted to be a sissy for them! I wanted to serve them, to have them use me for their pleasure. Up until then, I’d always told my wife that I was only interested in sucking cock, nothing else…and then there was the intensely arousing night when I admitted to her that I wanted to be fucked as well. I was rewarded for my honesty when she told me that was the hottest thing I’d ever told her, and that she wanted to see me fucked…and wanted it to happen often. I went on to tell her about my need to serve men, to be used by them..she loved that, and said she wanted me to become a cock slut, just as she knew I was.

So now I realize and freely admit that I have traveled a long road to becoming some type of a sissy. I often wear panties under my clothes, and have lately come to admit that I would really enjoy servicing a man while dressed as a woman…something I used to deny. I’ve also come to realize that that aspect of my sexuality has always been there…it just took a while for me to recognize it! So for me, being submissive does mean being a sissy as well.