Reply To: Admitting my inferiority to myself

I admitted my inferiority 40 years ago when still a newlywed. Though we had a good sex life it was obvious from the beginning that my wife needed more with sex than what I had to offer. For one thing I’ve never been hung and cum too quickly, usually within a minute. She was a good sport but I knew she wanted more. So, after only about three months of marriage I supported her first relationship outside of marriage. It was somewhat humiliating at first (and still is sometimes) as her lover would hang out at our apartment and seduce her or I would watch him rub oil on her at the pool in my presence. He was several years younger than both of us and hell I was only 21. And he was a bit cocky knowing he was pleasing my wife in ways I couldn’t. He let me know in no certain terms that he was the dominant male and that I was subordinate in this sexual relationship. I learned over time to be less sensitive – after all I was the one encouraging her to play. She has never asked me to wear a cage but she has denied me sex when she was saving it for her lover. It works for us – even now after all those years.