What kind of man are you?

The story read as follows . . .

“Deputy Beats Up Dad After Discovering Sick Family Love Triangle . . . A former sheriff’s deputy in Utah walked in on a scene that might as well have been straight out of a B-grade movie the other day. Timothy John ‘TJ’ Brewer walked in on his wife and his father having sex. Let that sink in a moment. This poor guy walked in on HIS wife (and the mother of his four children) on top of HIS father — fire chief Wesley ‘Corky’ Brewer. Good Lord.

TJ reportedly went ballistic (um, of course he did), backhanded his wife, pistol-whipped his father, and then wanted to “finish the job,” but before he could, Corky Brewer went home and stabbed himself, puncturing his lung and slicing his liver.

Honestly, it would be hard to imagine a different outcome. The details are just so, so sordid.

According to the reports, TJ was unable to find his wife and father after a dinner together that included drinking. When he went upstairs, he found his son’s door locked. Somehow he got in and he found them. In bed together. IN HER SON’S ROOM.

I don’t really care how bad your husband is, you just don’t do this. With his father. In your child’s room? I mean, I don’t condone violence, but come on? What would you do? Can you even imagine the betrayal?

Soon after, according to police, he went out and got his gun and pointed it at his wife, who managed to somehow get it away from him and raced to her parents’ house.

Now it’s TJ Brewer who is paying the ultimate price. He was arrested and isn’t allowed to speak to his wife or father, and his visits with his children must be supervised. His wife is saying she won’t testify against him, which I guess is good. But still. Wow.

There are affairs and crimes of passion and then there is something like this. It’s hard to imagine anything more upsetting than being betrayed by both your spouse and your parent at the same time. Whatever happens, this family is torn apart. What a sad, awful story.”

I saw this as a sad example of how people see things. The writer of this story saw the whole situation as sad, and as unusual. I do not believe it is sad or unusual. The husband could have reacted quite differently. He could have not reacted and instead acted. My ex wife had a romantic and physical affair with my father for the last fifteen years of his life. My mom didn’t enjoy sex with my dad because he was so rough in bed. My wife liked how rough he was. I saw my wife and my father having sex as a good thing. My father was getting sex that he desired and my wife was pleasing both of us by pleasing him physically and otherwise.

Many of the people who commented on the story stated that the wife and the father were terrible people for doing what they had done. What had they done? They had made love to and with each other. The wife wasn’t just with some guy. She was with a man she had come to know well and trusted and felt feelings for. The father was with a woman he found attractive enough to want to have sex with. I would have hoped that the husband would have been much happier that it was his father his wife was with rather than just some random stranger.

Because the husband could not control his anger, he now has to face the consequences. This was a perfect opportunity for the husband to be humbled and to allow his father and his wife to do what was natural to them. I believe that the husband missed a very special opportunity where he could have reveled in the fact that his wife had found a romantic partner to help enhance their marriage. And the fact that this may have been the reason that their marriage had sustained as long as it had was another reason to not only revel but celebrate the fact that his father had found his wife attractive enough to want to have her.

When I first found out that my ex wife and my father were romantically inclined, I was actually happy for both of them. I liked that my dad found my wife attractive enough to want to have sex with her, and I was proud of my wife for being able to love my dad in a very special way as well. When I first had the opportunity to watch my wife and my father have sex, it was amazing. He was so aggressive and my wife writhed beneath him. Watching my wife being oral with my father made me love my wife more than ever. To me, when a woman gives orally to a man, she is doing what is most intimate.

I wanted to know what other’s opinions are on this story. I also would like to know what you would think if it were you who had experienced this.

Thanks for your responses.