noob cuckold here

Welcome. Having your first cuckold experience involving someone you work with is definitely more complicated. Being a cuckold for your wife isn’t as much about ‘accepting your role’ as it is accepting the realities that come with inviting the exploration of having this role in your marriage. Referring to it as ‘accepting’ it implies you didn’t have choice, but that’s not really the case – there’s always a choice. Perhaps what she means is that having entered into this lifestyle, the anxiety is can produce isn’t easily managed and you sometimes have difficulty with it. News flash for your wife – no one is more responsible for helping you manage your cuckold anxiety than she is. If she can’t find the time or energy to do that, you need to consider yourself a victim, not a cuckold.

@cucken said:

Hello everyone, I’m new to cuckolding and would like to make friends with other cuckolds. I have a lot of thoughts and feelings that’s when I try to talk about them to my wife she gets upset, that perhaps I can’t accept my role.

Current status: married with kids, wife has one lover, a coworker of mine.

Thanks,
Cucken

First of all, I am not a true cuckold. Only in fantasy, implied in flirtations, and perhaps for real in the future. However, as we have come close, I have had an entire range of emotions, so I can imagine what you are going through and can also appreciate that you might not be able to address LUVR directly, since your feelings are not always easy to articulate or even in your control (or so it seems). I would love to read your descriptions of some of these feelings and add my two cents, if it seemed relevant or appropriate. Mat

As mat said in his reply, it would help others on here if you could give more insight into your anxieties and even a rundown of how you came to be a cuckold husband? Is it something you instigated or did your wife cuckold you without prior knowledge? From what you have told us already, communication seems to be the big issue where as it should be one of, if not, THE most important aspect of a successful and happy cuckold relationship.
My wife and I are only in the very early stages of our cuckold relationship so I’m far from an expert but we talked together and at length about it and have both done a lot of research. Consensual cuckolding should be a 3 way deal and from what little you have told us, it sounds like someone has been short changed within your situation……..at this point in time. You may not feel you are able to vent with your wife as you would like so do it here and see what others can throw up for you? The bottom line though is that you need open and frank discussion with your wife.
I’ll look forward to your posts.

cuckmatt.

Between a rock and a hard place springs to mind. I think you’re right to have some anxiety issues. It’s understandable for a wife to be a touch coy when embarking on such a relationship but she has had her lover for a while now with your knowledge and really ought to be a little more understanding of your position. Your co-worker is having his cake AND eating it whilst you are effectively ostracised from your wife. In the bedroom department at least. Some would say that you should roll over and accept your role as the supportive, loving cuckold husband who remains in the background but as your wife knows that the cuckold lifestyle you have in mind, one that gives you kicks too, she seems to be blussfully ignorant of your needs. That’s something that only you and your wife can address together. If she loves you she would at least cool things off until you reach a mutually beneficial scenario? If not then I personally think that you should be taking a good look at your future together. Marriage is a two way street and you’re the only one moving.

You both have to take the bull by the horns (no pun intended) and get the cards on the table. I can only see your situation worstening with you being pushed further away. Be brutally honest with her and I would like to think that she will be forced into being brutally honest with you.

I wish you the best of luck with every step you take.

cuckmatt

While ‘cuckold angst’ can have it’s upside as to emotional intensity, it seems to me that the goal of life (if I may be so presumptuous as to even comment on such a concept) isn’t just to make ourselves more stressed. It seems that it should be just the opposite. We should be feeling fuller, happier, more positively excited. I think that is why LUVR suggests having rules that make cuckolding more fulfilling for both the wife and the husband (not to mention the bull). If it kills you to have your wife fuck someone at work, that should be an honored no no. Also, if she gets to get a fuck from a well hung guy, it should be understood that you get to lick her up when she returns (or next morning, at least). That way you are both guaranteed a goodie in the exchange. That kind of give and take, it seems to me, is necessary in order to keep the cuckold (or any other) relationship vital and nourished, don’t you think? Mat