Reply To: Friends to Show us the way

First, be sure to talk this out and be sure. Decide what is okay and not okay.
Only you and she can know what is acceptable. Think about…..and talk about……if you should be there the first time (or at all). Many will say the husband should not be present the first time. As far as our situation, I was present the first time and things worked out well. I think if I had not been there, things would not have gone as well for both she and I as a couple. But, some would disagree. And, I have been present most times, following the first. I suggest that you help her get ready. This is exciting for you but it also tells her by your actions……that you truly want this to happen. If while helping her get prepared you begin to have second and third thoughts, this is common. Try to relax with it. But if you can’t…..you can make the offer that you want it to happen…..but that you now feel you should not be there. Or, you can speak about calling it off. I felt this way and choose to let it happen as planned. I expected the feeling of angst. I thought about my wanting her to receive more pleasure than I had been giving her. I tried to work off her excitement as I helped her get ready. When she and he are first together be ready to feel some discomfort. And excitement. You may even feel confused. You may feel left-out. I was able to deal with these feelings. Your penis may not get hard at first….soon it will……or it may be hard right away. I felt very embarrassed. He was very large and I knew she really would enjoy it. I was envious of his cock and balls. I suggest that you sit somewhere out of the way and let them get to know one another sexually. If you have tears, deal with it. If you want to cry, go to another room. Let your wife and her lover enjoy this time together. I climaxed before even touching myself. And, while watching and for some time after…..I could get an erection repeatedly (never happened before this). If their intimacy causes you to feel deeply hurt…..remember….you want her to have really good pleasure. Another man giving your wife pleasure and being given pleasure by her….will likely take you down some notches. Expect to feel humbled, meaning humiliated. Realize that their kissing is very pleasurable for her. If you want to be cuckolded and for her to receive pleasure from other guys, you’ll want her to feel comfortable. She will need to know, at this juncture of the first time, that you are okay with this and that you actually want it. Show your wife how much you love her and feel good about her pleasure. Expect to feel inferior to her lover. Love her so much that you’ll deal with this.