Reply To: Friends to Show us the way

Please be careful how you start on this journey. Like many others I fantasised about about seeing my wife with a black guy and persuaded her to come to a club in South London for mixed couples and singles. She was reluctant but enjoyed the attention and I loved seeing her dance close with younger black guys. She didn’t want to take it further but I persuaded her to give out her number and she got a few calls. I told her it wouldn’t do any harm to go on a date and see what happens. I’m sure I was more excited than she was.
She has seen him for a few months now but it hasn’t worked out how I’d visualised it. Neither of them are comfortable with him staying overnight (we have a 15 year old daughter) and I feel I’ve been excluded from this.
It’s not something I’d planned for and it doesn’t seem fair. Any suggestions please?