Reply To: Friends to Show us the way

These posts have been very useful It’s always good getting advice from others who have been through this unusual (to us) situation even though everyone is different.
My wife’s lover who hasn’t been comfortable about visiting us at home has agreed for us as a family to go out for a meal together this weekend. He will become a real person to me maybe a friend and not a threat. Our daughter who must have thought there is ‘something funny’ going on will see we are all comfortable with this arrangement and not think our family is in danger of splitting up. I will be happier not having to keep secrets I think this will break the tension.
As we are in public there won’t be any ‘intimacy’ it’s just a get to know you meal. He won’t be coming home with us.
I don’t think her boyfriend has had previous experience of this although we did meet him in a ‘mixed’ club and I want him to feel at ease and relaxed. I think they have genuine feelings for each other and I want him to know that I approve.