Re: Confused

Wow, it sure sounds like she’s jumping into this with both feet. There are a lot of different activities associated with them, and not all of them are for everybody. Everyone has their own likes, dislikes, and limits. Clean up duty is one that you will see a lot of, and there are as many opinions of it as there are cuckolds, bulls, and wives. Don’t get too hung up on it being a “gay” thing. Gay and straight isn’t as much of a black and white issue as many believe. I would recommend doing some reading on the Kinsey scale. It is a theory that proposes that sexuality is described better by a continuum than a one-or-the other type definition. For a lot of guys the idea of clean up is such a turn on because they’re not gay, it’s the humiliation and indignity of it that drives their fantasies.

It sounds to me like you and your partner need to have some outside the bedroom serious discussion about the whole deal. Figure out where you both stand, what your likes/dislikes/fantasies in this particular area are, and what your limits are. Pregnancy is another very important thing to talk about. There are cuckolds out there who would like their wife to have another man’s child, but it sounds like that you are definitely not in that camp. But just like any other sexual relationship, sex is where babies come from, and you need to have a plan in place for the “what if” scenario.