Re: Denial

It was nice to stumble onto this post.

My wife used to have a set rule of no sex between us 48 hours before and one week after. The before was, as some of you said, was to keep her “clean” for him, and the one week after was mentally to establish dominance and/or respect for their relationship. I will admit, it was also very exciting for me to know that if they met again in that week, it could be indefinite.

Over time, that time set has changed. It is now 24 hours prior and 2 weeks after. The prior sometimes takes place, but when she has a regular bf, the after has become a bit more extended, mostly to he sees her again usually more than every two weeks, so it repeats.

It was nice to know that we are not the only ones to practice condom denial. It makes you feel more “normal” knowing others do things as well. I am caged 24/7 and she controls my orgasm frequency. So, honestly me having to use a condom while he doesnt, enforces our roles, but once let out of that cage, I wouldnt complain if she made me wear the box the condoms come in, just because after awhile, you’ll take anything offered. I dont know how you treat blow jobs, but if my wife is dating a steady guy, we even use them for that.

We started using the cage and condom denial about 5-6 years ago. In the early stages, after a few weeks, I would hope that she would stop seeing him just so I could feel it bare. Now days, its just accepted.

Four months ago she started dating a “bull” (always thought that term was weird, but when in Rome….) and he sees her 1-2 times a week, so because of that frequency, condom or not, I havent had sex since they started dating. She was still giving me oral once a week (thank God, that cage sure gets tight) but this last month the two of them decided that in order for me to even get oral (with a condom mind you) I have to call him up and ask him if she can relieve me. He makes it embarrassing/humiliating and likes to say no even after begging him, and she wont budge from their set rules. It is new to us, and as with many new things my mind bounces back and forth from liking it to not, but I imagine like other things in a short time, it will be more normal.

Anyway, its nice to read that we arent the only ones doing this.