Re: Denial

Luvr – we had tried (and enjoyed) your suggested period of abstinence in the past. With her first lover it never really came up as the day before she had always said that she wanted to be horny for when she’d see him. It was her second lover who pushed our envelope more. He was a bit of a Dom type personality and tried to push my wife into doing things that, she wasn’t ready for at the time – including him actually requesting she totally cut me off from sex with her. She flatly denied that request but she did begin to insist on at least 48 hours of cleanliness before she’d see him and she said he was fastidious about not liking to know that she was still having sex with me.

This has become somewhat of an unspoken norm – that she likes at least 2 days for her horniness to rise. That still gives us plenty of time together – she will often go out on Tuesdays and usually Thursday or Friday. We would have sex together, if she was up for it and wanted it, when she’d return or over the weekend. It’s only with her latest lover – and only in the past few months that she’s seized on this new idea of me not cumming in her at all. She often teases me now that “xxxxx is the only one who cums in me now” – but even with using condoms with her, she still wants her 2 days before a date to get herself ready so it’s much more than just being clean for him.

I’m aroused by it all and comforted that we’ve been able to reconnect as we have when we’ve gone away for a special occasion and she’s allowed and enjoyed me going bare with her again. She admitted that even she felt an added intensity between us by what we’re doing and the results were spectacular the last time we went away, now 3-weeks ago, with us behaving like newlyweds again. Recently she’s begun to enjoy knowing she can exert more control over our times together but she is still most definitely focused on our mutual enjoyment of what we’re doing – and I’ve admitted to her that, at least for now, I’m quite content and aroused to use condoms with her – she in turn says she is feeling very aroused herself by feeling that her lover now controls her pussy and, in many ways, has traded places with me – he enjoys her bare while I do not. But it turns me on and she is not out to deny me pleasure at all – quite the opposite – she takes great (and receives) pleasure in knowing that we still have a good sex-life together – she just doesn’t want my semen in her right now.

It’s quite intense to open the nightstand and see that she’s replenished our box of condoms.