Re: Genetic Propensity

I completely agree with your wife; those who engage in cuckolding aren't the aberration, we are the biological norm.

If she hasn't read my guide on The Biology of Cuckolding, she may enjoy the read. I'm not an evolutionary biologist by training, but I don't think it takes too much formal training to see the obvious.

It's not just males who lead or follow, it's all of us. Females simply go about that process in a different manner. Where males tend to be direct in their leadership or even their following, women are more subtle and employ devices of emotion and situation.

It's also my belief there are really no born alpha males; the alpha is simply promoted to that status by his peers. Where he might be alpha in one community, he may not be so recognized elsewhere. This is true throughout the animal kingdom, so why shouldn't it be true for us?

I think I'd really enjoy some conversation with your wife. I've long believed a lot of our social ills stem from the conflict of who we are wired to be and what we're told to be by shifting societal norms, religion & 'education'. Most of us can work out ways to handle those conflicts, but there are always some who cannot.

Always a student of human behavior, I have also been fascinated with marketing and what we've learned about ourselves as a species through it – yet ignored in a meta context. Isn't it fascinating that to market to males you should use models who epitomize masculinity, yet to market to women, you cannot employ overtly feminine models. This was pointed out to me years ago in my first marketing class in college; find me a commercial where the woman has no more than a B cup and I'll find you an ad targeted at women. Start watching ads with this in mind and you'll see that's true much more often than not.

Our genes play a role in everything we are and do – even if we can roll our tongue or if bright sunlight makes us sneeze. We are truly a strange organism!