Re: GF agreed, now what?

Luvr gives the expert opinion here-and it seems very wise to me.

Its worth thinking about that friend point. At first it can seem attractive to arrange something that is strictly physical and circumscribed and immediately threesome. Luvr is right to point out that the last is a big ask. Even experienced bulls like to find their way first, to enjoy the lady and test out whether the husband might be co operative. I haven’t met many women who can long enjoy sex with a second man and see it as strictly a physical release. They like to know something of the guy’s attitudes and reasoning-why he does this. At the very least its about safety (could he be a health risk) and its about respecting why you as a couple explore these things. If he is Mr Ego and nothing else, then he could be extremely dangerous. Again and again luvr argues the point about considerate but masculine bulls- its the central point and why `i contribute here.

So think its worth exploring some things about a prospective bull. Let;’s assume that you have found him socially, rather than through a dating agency/ad.

1. When your wife admits that she is married but excited by possibilities with other men, is he interested in why that is? If all he sees is a bedroom opportunity, is he Mr Right? I’d venture not! A good bull is going to contribute to you both. He only does that if he understands something about what turns you guys on.

2. When you’re out socially, does he seem confident with you as well as your wife? He isn’t a long standing friend but he will if he is sincere, test out opportunities to enjoy her and arouse you.I sometimes say to a husband if we’re in a club, ‘I’m going to borrow this lady for a dance or two, no problems with that is there?’ Your correct response of course is to acquiesce and to enjoy the look of arousal on your wife’s face. As luvr says, it’s dating thing. I might sometime later say, ‘I’m driving over to the coast for the day and plan to take Carol (or other name).’ Notice how the ‘don’t mind’ bit is dropped. Once I know she likes my company I don’t consult the guy. Once when I did, and we’d got past that point, the lady said, ‘oh of course I’d love to come, John doesn’t mind’ (nice put down). You could ask how do such guys get so cocky, and the answer is that we read women’s body language. Women signal their arousal, even if that is regards teasing you. We read you too-the way you accept everything that she says, the way you run errands, fetching the drinks.

3. Some time later, perhaps she has had a social date with him, she should ask him, you fuck married women- why? I hope that you want to know he understands himself and is honest about the same. My answer would be, ‘because I am turned on by the bitchy way that married women behave then. I like the way they take more and have a husband accept things.’ If he has got to know your wife he shouldn’t fudge that. He should be open and clear about his agenda. Notice how this doesn’t exclude you the husband. If I were the guy to partner your wife, it would be because there was a rapport for sure, a chemistry, but it would be because of what she did to you through this. For me, its a signal that says-I want my thing to be part of your thing too. I’m not about robbing wives and that for most girl’s is key. They are turned on by being a more wanton, siren like woman, but they rightly abhor the thought of abandoning someone who has gifted that.

Enough said-back to the master of the blog and someone more expert than me.
Jezz