Re: Help! . . Am I doing/saying the right things?

In my very humble opinion, you need to be much more open with your wife. 

If the two of you can’t talk freely about your fantasies, your chances of turning them real are pretty remote.  You don’t have to hit her over the head with the whole thing but you certainly need to lay it out on the table a little faster than you have so far.  The oblique route you are taking, innuendos, hints, vague comments to her girlfriend, all are likely to lead to miscommunications and misunderstandings. 

Suck it up and make your move.  Otherwise, you’ll just forever live up to your nickname. 

Good luck.