Re: Hot”girlfriend” needing help getting started

Buttercup,

Welcome to the site. The basic concept I would suggest you two consider is one that helps new couples explore BDSM while feeling there are boundaries out there somewhere. You need to feel empowered to have control, he needs to feel empowered to give up that control. Both of you want those roles without it putting your relationship at risk. To do that, you take small steps, led by you.

I would suggest establishing some basic boundaries (you may have done so already) with regard to other men. For example, it’s your right as his Domme to flirt and even make dates with other men, but it is your obligation to your cuckold that he know of any flirtation, any dates made. For every rule that benefits one of you, there should be an ‘opposing’ rule that counters it. If I establish a rule of denial for a cuckold in some form i.e.; he can only fuck you after a date – then the counter rule would be you may not deny him intercourse after a date, so ensure you are ready and welcoming of it or you violate the spirit of said rule.

If you establish rules which define when his penis must be restrained, also establish some which define when he must be freed – and given release, by you, directly, to make his investment in submission pay off.