Re: How to Bring out the Sex Drive

Agree with both the slowly does it approach and with her masturbation being not a problem but a golden opportunity. Encourage this (gently), buy her sex toys she likes the look of. Its all about fuelling her drive, stepping back and giving her the space to develop her desires. The more she masturbates the more opportunities she has to fantasize about other men.

For me the whole aim is for her to seek sex outside our marriage so I don’t want to be satisfying her within it, but neither do I want her to shut down through frustration. Masturbation and fantasy coupled with lots of love and reassurance opened my wife to taking her lover. Her masturbation is your friend.