Re: In praise of Emily

ON CUNNILINGUS
During my time in this lifestyle I have become convinced that cunnilingus is the key to a sustainable cuckold marriage. It serves so many functions..

– securing personal pleasure for the hot wife (a dominant female pleasure because coupling is largely reserved for her stud)
– dominating the cuck husband ( in our lifestyle licking pussy is associated with submission but see discussion below) The well informed hotwife knows that her sex scent and the taste of her pussy can become dominant needs in the cuck. Even the taste of her lover’s semen there can become compelling. Where there is a need then there is an opportunity and she uses it to rule. She rations pussy licking. Cuck must obey to secure these treats.
-It helps separate out relationships. I’m struck by how often that helps new cuckoldresses. This guy fucks me and that one cleans up.
-It is something that the hotwife can use to prolong her pleasures and to heighten orgasm. The techniques are relatively simple. Cuck is ordered to keep his tongue off clitty until she is ready. She leads the dirty conversation. If she heightens things quickly, for example fantasizing about her husband doing this in front of her bull, then orgasm is likely to follow sooner. Grabbing her cuck’s hair means that she can control the pressure he exerts down there. It can be light touch flicking tongue, or greedy full on mouth worship.
-Because women are very capable of multiple orgasms a well trained cuck can be used down there to bring things on and off the boil. I have seen Emily have James lick downstairs for half an hour at a time whilst we have petted and talked dirty. Watching your cuck husband lick your bull’s fingers as he slides them in and out of your sex, is very horny.
-Creampie cunnilingus is described by many women as the hottest and dirtiest sex possible. It is the complete submission to her sexual choices, the fucking she shares with a dominant male. Symbolically, in a girl’s head it can light fireworks.

My preference is to wean the husband off cock sex very early on. I know others think it sexy to share, albeit with the husband on seconds and reduced rations. But I like my women to be quite bitchy and to lay down the rules with their cuck. Its not that I don’t want them to have sex. Its that I commend an un equal sex-she must rule. That way he learns to submit faster and more deeply. His wife becomes his mistress and as the need for cunnilingus takes over, he starts to see his tongue as his sex organ. His cock becomes redundant and that is emphasized when it is caged. Training a husband on the tongue, making him kneel to do it, has all sorts of delicious mistress knows best connotations. There will come a day quite soon when she will show her bull the control she has. There will com a day longer in the future, when he will lick pussy to order and in select company. If this seems strange, even repugnant to a hotwife early on, it becomes less so once her appetite for sex is triggered. She is getting a lot more sex as a hot wife. She expects more too. Cunnilingus (as a demonstration of mistress hood) accentuates that. It teases other alpha males so that they will try their arm. It emphasises to beta males that she is out of their league. They shy away and search for the position back down in the pecking order.

Emily is a mistress of cunnilingus. Mags I suspect will be in future. But as she is not getting this yet (both CC and I copulate-we associate licking with submission) its important to find Mags an husband who will do this for her. On Friday night, when James licked CC’s balls beneath her, I guessed what Mags craved-so now finding a husband is key. Anyone who tells you that the lifestyle uses women needs to think on about that. The hotwife secures two men for her pleasure-one who will fuck her and one who will submit to her. It is just right for the headstrong girl. If you haven’t tried this as a hotwife curious female there are some things to share from what Em tells me…

– your love lips will respond to all the licking and sucking. They often grow larger through the repeated engorgement with blood and then they pout. Back in cave times this was probably a benefit in that it signalled the alpha females. Not only were they looser downstairs going with the bigger males, but they were getting submission from the beta males and females. Both sucked pussy in submission. Looking at yourself in a mirror your body probably seems more sexual. Your sex looks wanton and for many hotwives to be this is a real buzz. For the cuck it is utterly compelling. Pouting lips deserve devotion.

– you start to see your pussy in a different way. It has always been a place of pleasure, but now it is a means of control. Hotwives I have known describe how they used to just feel their husbands licking down there but as the sexy thoughts develop, they prefer to watch him there as well. They sit in ways, ride his face, so that they can watch the act and reinforce the sense of mistress hood. One said, ‘you feed your husband your sex and the steamy fillings. You watch him eat and make sure he eats it all up’ There seems something maternal in there somewhere.

– You become more sensitized to the pleasure of oral sex, BUT you also develop greater control as regards riding the edge of an orgasm. I’m sure that nerve endiings down there become more attuned to oral pleasures, the different pressures that are exerted. To be lightly licked is very different from being fervently sucked. You develop a palette of pleasures. i know that Em often insists that James lick lightly, fleetingly back and forth across her sex lips. She likes him to groan and moan a little as he does this, the guy needing more but following the rules. Doing this there have been countless times when she has squirted in his face. Her bartholins glands (sorry to be technical) have sprayed his face with lady cum. Orchestrating the touch, knowing when you are in the edge and backing off, moving on with the dirty sensations means that Em says you can surf a climax.

-Receiving cunnlingus straight away your bull has ejaculated inside you takes a little mastering. You want it because the raunchy associations are huge. But a eager lapping tongue at this stage is ticklish. So Em has James suck the spunk off her lips first, with enough pressure not to brush and tickle, but not so full on to make the touch intolerable. If your cuck doesn’t know what this feels like, how much pressure to use, dribble a little cream on a soft surface (so help me warm Yorkshire pudding is perfect for this) and have him practice. Its a siphoning kiss and the sounds are very sexy. Emily’s other practice is to make James wait ten minutes. The spunk cools and it congeals a little. The required submission is even greater and she often climaxes very hard then.

– last ladies observation point, you need to be ready for the fact that if you are stretched from bigger and better sex, that riding the cuck’s face is going to produce a sticky mess. A husband’s face covered in semen can look disgusting, so you use your finger to feed him the missed bits. Its a mixed emotion thing, because you don’t want him to get much. You DO want your bull’s semen inside you, doing what it theoretically could! But you do want your husband thoroughly subjugated to your lifestyle. So be prepared, emotions swirl.

Now a brief debate and it concerns whether bulls should lick pussy. I don’t-at least other than once in a blue moon to show a cuck husband what he has to do. I don’t because I want the hotwife to associate this with submissive sex, with subordinate behaviour. I know that many see cunnilingus as a skill, as a mark of the skilful lover, but that assumes something more vanilla. Its assumed that a skilful oral practitioner keeps his wife and especially in a culture where wives have a naughty habit of taking lovers if they become bored. Well, in a cuckold lifestyle we are way past that. The other guy is taking your wife and you consent to it. So you lick now to other purpose and I don’t. Its not just less dominant to do so, it runs the risk that if I do it better than cucky, then a wife has less reason to stay with her husband. That’s not what I want. All thoughts welcome as ever! (Hope the thread informs, entertains, offers insights).

As i finish up here I am contemplating recommending a nice ball tongue stud to James. People know what they are for and when James has come out, it will be a badge of status. I picture the chair, Emily and that stud tongue working devilishly away! It might drive my girl utterly crazy!

Jezz