Re: In praise of Emily

EXPLAINING US

Whether we are discussing Annette and her husband, or Mags and David in the future talking about the cuck relationship, there comes a moment when you need to explain to others how you choose to live. The lifestyle choice is of course complex. It is founded in your personal pasts, what you both find erotic and where you are emotionally right now. You aren’t about to give the listener a lecturer on cuckolding though. So there is a need for a briefer explanation, one that you both tend to use with key listeners. You need to sing from the same hymn sheet as it were. Just what the hymn sheet is depends on several things. First, who you are speaking to. For example, if you are addressing a prospective alpha male that might be invited to play a role, then the account of is usually more deeply submissive as regards the cuck male. The hot wife is often more brutal about matters too-her needs, her expectations and her past disappointments. But talking to other girlfriends is a different matter. Now there needs to be a softer approach, one that emphasises choice, liberation and responsible management of the cucked male. If the hot wife comes across as a rampant slut now, she may panic girlfriends who wonder what they don’t do and what a woman should do…and about what this woman might attempt with their husbands! So the explanation is presented to an audience. That is not to say that it is a falsehood or lie, it is to say that it is a summary that accents certain things, those that respect the interests and the needs of the listener. The second variable on how you explain things refers to whether you are talking about yourself or your partner. A hot wife might well talk about her cucked husband in quite different terms. She may emphasise his generosity, his imagination and ability to adapt- all real assets. The point is that she makes it clear that he needed to be cucked and was ready to facilitate life choices for her. To do otherwise is to convey an impression that you as a hot wife are completely without regard for the cuck husband. The same works in reverse, the cucked husband refers reverentially to his wife (or mistress-depends who’s listening), and often refers to his fondness for her, how exciting and different she is. To portray her in more critical terms who be to undermine what you convey as a couple. Remember, to be a bitch in the vanilla world means something subtly different to what it sometimes means in the cuckolding world.

I’ve known a few couples who have developed quite polished but brief explanations (narratives) for others regarding their lifestyle, even as they introduced me. A good bull reflects on this with the couple, and works with explanations that support the couple. As long as the explanation is not completely wayward from their private truth, something likely to be exposed later on, the bull should work with what helps the couple to cope. The following are examples of what I have heard used, and which represent options for when Mags or Annette perhaps asks, what is the best way to proceed.

The bohemian explanation
This argues that the couple have decided to reject social convention and to live bravely in the edge in a way that allows each to explore their different needs. It is a tried and tested one and was used by people down the ages to explain and defend lifestyle choices. Certainly the hedonism pre first world war featured a lot of this. It is a good explanation where both hot wife and cuck are reasonably well educated. Bright people think differently. You would be surprised how many well educated and sophisticated wives have fucked around with the consent of their husbands, whether that was called cuckolding or not.

The health and/or energy explanation
This is an explanation sometimes used when the cuck is a good deal older that his wife and where it could reasonably be surmised that medical conditions or just plain tiredness and energy short fall have prompted a new lifestyle choice. Some couples clearly fabricate excuses about his abilities, erectile dysfunction associated with diabetes for instance, infertility associated with mumps in adolescent years. You might say, goodness that is a lie! But the truth is that it often seems kinder than saying your husband isn’t any good in bed, or else is too small for you. if you talk loads about infertility though some listeners will pester with questions about pregnancy, so you’d better check that. Not all cuckoldresses want to breed with a bull.

The appetite explanation
Its certainly true that people have different libido levels, appetite varies hugely. The average woman knows this from her experience of ovulation- she may want sex much more then. In many ways its the brave explanation, but it is usually backed up with some scientific arguments about a pre disposition to either high or low libido. To say that the guy has no interest in sex is to ask questions- why? So genetic predisposition comes to the aid of such folk. Overdone this leaves the hot wife looking like a nymphomaniac which is unfair. Hotwives certainly fuck more, but they also fuck better. quality is important too.

The learned behaviour explanation
This basically argues that the cuck grew up amongst dominant women, a mother, aunts, siblings and that he has learned to defer and gain pleasure from their dominance. Its a very honest explanation and sometimes used with the closest friends who are prepared to remember who you are today as well as what you started from. The same applies to the dominant wife. She was groomed to rule and derived pleasure from the same. Its arguable that this is the basis for why class seems so sexy to many Brits. Hierarchy is deeply sensual for some.

Genetic superiority
We’re nor talking eugenics here, but for some this does make sense. They have read about the selfish gene and about the evolution of sexual instincts. So they say that they aren’t fighting instinct any more and the hot wife naturally selects (no pun intended Charles) males who are superior, both physically and in terms of income/earning power. This one goes down well with the cuck curious. It does sometimes suggest the inevitability of things as though we are all driven by this single instinct. Its certainly good when a hot wife periodically feels a any of guilt about what she does.

Now these are a few and you may be know others. See what you think. But its important stuff to deliberate on, at least, when others might ask a question or two and you need to say to yourself, we live this way because…

Jezz