Re: Letting the Cuckold Watch

It really depends on all involved, the chemistry and the situation at the time.

For those who have not been formally initiated into this lifestyle, the idealized session of the fantasy can be upset by reality when the man with his wife is more than a penis donor. Few are chiseled Adonises with no imperfections, following the  script dictated by fantasies.  Just the personification of the stud lover can be thrilling and troubling.  This is especially true when the wife’s tastes in choosing the lover are not parallel with her husband’s.

While the exhibition/voyeur dynamic is big for some people, it is not for all or at least not all of the time. It can be awkward having a gawking husband in the room. If the hotwife is not relaxed, she loses some of the arousal and might be cheated out of orgasms. Her lover might not comfortably perform.  And the husband might feel foolish, standing there with his dick in his hand wondering if he should make requests or just let them do as they wish.

For a healthy relationship, the wife needs her space at least some of the time when she is hot dating.  She and her lover need true intimacy, away from spectators and cameras.  And the husband digests things very differently when he is left home to only speculate and wait. A fun balance is for him to be in the next room or in the hallway, behind the closed door, to hear some of the fun as it evolves in real time.

For us, any new represents some risk until he earns that margin of needed trust.  Hubby is there to make sure he doesn’t get too rough, defy her “no” insistence for anything, or reuse to use the condom as agreed.  After trust is established, it is all played by ear.