Re: making it happen

Hi Rob.
I’m in a not un-similar position myself. The difference being that my wife has taken absolute control of the cuckold dream now. I never expected it at the outset but it was something I was very aware of possibly happening. As long as you and your wife are completely open about every aspect, you have options.
You feel like what was your initial fantasy has become something your wife has picked up and run with. I think that this is a classic case of cuckolding evolution. I mentioned options and what I mean by this is that if your relationship with your wife is strong (and it has to be stronger than most) then discuss your apprehesion with her. You are at a pivitol point now and there maybe only a couple more opportunities for a “timeout” or to even put the brakes on things completely.
On the other hand, you are both stepping towards a completely strange and new dynamic within your relationship which is bound to get your nerves jangling. You wouldn’t be human otherwise. If you together choose to continue, you can put in place safeguards that will benefit both of you. Make sure that you know the location of their planned rendezvous. Have her ensure that her phone is switched on for the duration. Not for you to call or text her but so that she can make contact with you anytime. She may or may not have talked to her suitor about you but I would hope that she had and in doing so, made him comfortable knowing that she has a husband waiting at home and one that is fully aware of the liason. If he isn’t comfortable with this then there is an element of respect for your wife and her relationship with you that is missing. If things go well on the initial meeting, then further down the road, liberties can be taken by your wife and her suitor. But there HAS to be trust between all three involved, right from the word go.
You may not feel you are in the driving seat any longer but you AND your wife are steering the ship. Or that’s how it should be in the outset. Keep communicating!!

Good luck in your decisions, which ever direction they take you in.

Matt.