Re: making it happen

Thanks for sharing Rob. I hope inputs from an inexpert but thoughtful bull/boyfriend angle help you. I know bulls in the blogs and literature come across as cardboard cut out, machines (luvr excepted!), so a reflection or two more. In the situation above the lady concerned wanted sex to be private at first. But there was a frisson regarding fucking at their house, so she would send him off to the club or something and set a deadline before which he was not allowed to return or to call. She was very demonstrative, very hot from the outset then and I formed the opinion that this was an abandonment that wouldn’t have been possible for her, if we had had been witnessed so early. We fucked all over the house too and it was as if she was making the place our territory as well as theirs. Dressing up when HE was going out said a lot, she has two or three short leather skirts that are clearly hot for him and which she uses to signal that she looked forward to time with me. Now I don’t quiz a woman about the details at such times, but it seemed too that she wanted our sex to be polished, to be just so, before he was allowed to watch. Of course in the fantasy cuck world the sex is perfect first time right?! The bull doesn’t have to learn how to really make her gasp and scream-its all down to a big cock thrusting. Well it ain’t necessarily like that-different women scream for different things and a bull learns (if he has any sense at all).

We shared private sex over the first month or two and to be honest that was my preference too. I wanted to enjoy her and get her to the point where she needed this often. That’s done with what you do in bed, but what you say as well. She needed, wanted, to be in my thrall as it were (I know, that sounds stupidly arrogant-but this is the psychology of the thing sometimes). We dated across town, at a bar or two and that really made her feel sexy-being out as my woman. When we suggested that hubby come out with us and then return home for a threesome she was definitely ready for the witnessed sex. She was giving me ‘cow eyes’ all evening and her husband was responding correctly, admiring her and doing all that I said. It was a very comfortable place for a flesh and blood bull-knowing that I could take her and he would support the fucking-however long and hard it went on. I had him undress her and then lick her pussy whilst we kissed. I had my fingers down there too, opening her labia so he could lick inside. I didn’t plan it that way, but he licked my fingers as I did that. It was very intimate, very co operative. She looked down and was so aroused, that I held out fingers for the husband to suck. He did that and she begged for cock. She didn’t want him close then, co operating in the way that you describe your wife’s wishes. He had to sit on a chair in the corner whilst I enjoyed her. Licking out (the ritual- instinctive back to cave times?) came next and she watched me intently as he did that. Her face was a picture. She seemed to say, ‘look I have no shame…I am yours.’ She didn’t climax on his tongue- it was for her just a chore that she would make him do. I can’t say whether it was different when he tongued her in private, but she never orgasmed, or allowed herself an orgasm on tongue, in front of me.

So what makes the difference? Perhaps a wife needs to know that a husband is fully committed and co operative and that the sex doesn’t equal ‘cheating’. Perhaps the sharing side of things is important, being taken in some way by two men. I can understand that, but from the less than perfect bull perspective, it is harder to handle if its a first time out. I like to be in charge with the lady first. I think in the case of my lady she wanted to say to her very open and caring husband, look, this is happening anyway now…I’ve thought about it, want it and need it. So you can help. It may be how a woman has been brought up to think about sex and relationships. It seems to me though that a would be cuck husband needs to know and respect the woman’s take on this from the start as you have done. Otherwise sorting out an arrangement is so much harder. best wishes, Jezz.