Re: Need your advice/opinion

Good question. My wife and I tried it at about your age. We both did not like it and never did it again. We still have memories that we wish we did not have. It cannot be undone and can be brought up in arguments depending on the situation. What worked for us though was my wife being cuckolded since guys can more easily have sex with no emotional ties.

The other part of your questions is also interesting. The woman we knew who were allowed to date other men and have lovers, did become very flirty. Actually slutty and wanted every increasing sexual adventures to keep it interesting. When I was a cuckold, my girlfriend started with dating one guy a week and then that turned to several nights a week and then more than one guy in the same day. One day when my 3 best friends were visiting me she came out and asked them all to gang bang her. That was the last straw for me and I kicked her out the next day.

The wife of our best friends was a hotwife. She would flirt with guys at the community pool and people would talk about her. My wife talked to her and was told that after a few years of being able to have sex outside of marriage, sex no longer was associated with marriage anymore and sex with new guys is always more exciting than sex with the same person every day. Due to a problem with STD’s in the past, something I also got from a nice married wife, they stuck to a small group of local men to be safe. The problem was that she fell in love with one of them so her husband told her not to see him again. She agreed and started to see him on the side. When he found out, they divorced and she married the other guy and then divorced him and married another lover and divorced him and married another lover and then we lost track of her.

My wife is a cuckquean so I was a hot husband. Sometimes my wife was with me and sometimes she was not. Despite our rules and “Trust”, I fell in love with a woman and left my wife. I came to my senses after two months and went back to my wife as she knew I would. A lover who you are only with for the fun and games times is always more enticing than the wife who nags you to take out the garbage or is with you all the time. Trust, rules, etc. go out the window when you fall in love. If 50% of married people are willing to break their marriage vows, do you think just because you are in a cuckold relationship that it will not end up violating trust? All but one cuckoldress I had, violated their cuck’s rules. One night the woman I was with was accosted by her husband. After ordering him to stop and tell me what the problem was, I found out that she was not supposed to be seeing me anymore. She was telling him that she picked up guys at bars and clubs but all the time she was with me. I bowed out as I never want to ruin a marriage since I too was married. All but one cuckoldress trash talked about their husbands and lied to them when they called them on the phone. 

I am ashamed to say that I too lied to my cuckquean. I told her whatever fed her fantasy so that I could continue to date other women. After seeing all of our friends who brought others into their sex lives, get divorced because of it, we got scared and we settled in with just one woman for the rest of our marriage. She got married to a cuck after the first few years and we kept all sex among the four of us. The cuck did not want anything other than a phone call at night. His wife was free to stay as long as she wanted with us. In fact, she was with us so much that she had her own room and wardrobe of slutty clothes in our home. We had a perfect relationship because although I loved her, she is not the type of woman I would ever marry. My wife is bisexual so my gf was also bi so that took care of their bi needs. I liked S&M but my wife did not. However, my gf did. We all filled each other’s needs.

I am conflicted about this whole cuckold thing. I cannot condemn it because I participated in it from both sides and enjoyed it. However I have seen many more marriages fail because of it, than make it. I think that is because the simple fact that the wife is not sexually satisfied, and/or the husband needs his wife to be a slut, indicates a problem in the marriage. I had a problem. My wife is bisexual and she did not want to jeopardize our marriage by dating women without me. We fixed that problem by having me date married woman with cuckold husbands that were bi or bi curious. We had a little different kind of marriage. My girlfriends cuckold my wife while I cuckolded their husbands. It turned out to be a safe way to do it as it reduced the risk of anyone leaving their spouse or getting a disease. This arrangement was made after I fell in love with a single woman.

Despite my 40 year of success, except for that one time, I usually advise guys not to push their wives into it. If both are interested I suggest you first take baby steps. Try having your wife turn on guys on Skype first. If that goes OK for both of you then try a local swinger’s club. You can just watch if you want. Also try wife swapping in the same room and see how that goes. If you are both comfortable with your wife having sex with other guys than find yourself a stranger. Do not do it with a friend because there is already an emotional bond between your wife and him. There are enough stories on the net and it has been my personal experience, that best friends and you wife are a lethal combination. Never let her pick the guy either. 

One last bit of advice to consider or not, is that not all woman want a big cock, to degrade themselves, to act like a porn star, or swallow the cum from a first time sex partner. That is stuff us guys think they want. Like I tell others, most of us marry the type of woman who does not want to do the things we want her to do in our cuckold fetish fantasy.

Sorry for the long post. As you can see I am conflicted. I have seen cuckolding and hotwifing fail more than succeed. I have seen it succeed over the course of a 25 year marriage and in my case, over 40 years. The problem is that you will never know until you try and once done, you can never take it back. There is also the danger that once the excitement of being a cuckold fades, you may want to stop it or do it less often but your wife may not. That is very common among swingers. The husband talks the wife into it and then when the husband wants to stop, she does not. Life is a crap shoot so you either avoid the game or roll the dice and take your chances. Just be smart enough to realize that more post about doing things than actually do them. I assure you that most men will think you are not man enough to keep a woman then will think you are manly if they find out what you are doing. Do not think a large cock is what she wants. My wife finds even my 7 inches too painful. So much so that we have not had intercourse in many years. It may be fun to try it once of twice but most women get their orgasm by clitoral stimulation so girth is more important than length. She, like my wife, may not really enjoy sex without an emotional attachment or like to be pounded for an hour in all different sexual positions. In other words, do not project you view of what a woman wants, on your wife. Do what she wants. She is not an object for you to manipulate to feed your fetish. Do not make her feel that she has to do it to keep your love. Do not make her feel that you are doing it because you do not love her enough to keep her all to yourself.  It is a dangerous road we take and just go into it with eyes wide open and not filled with internet stories.  Gook luck.