Re: New obsession

Thanks for your comments.. So I thought I would give everyone an update on my new found obsession.

I spent several weeks researching the best way to broach the subject with my wife. We had discussed the idea during pillow talk maybe a couple times a year over the course of our marriage. Never in a cuckold type of scenario (never new what a cuckold was until recently) just a third person joining us in the bedroom kind of way. Early on it became clear she was not comfortable with the idea of me having sex with another woman so I began limiting the talk to sharing her with other men. We always had hot sex during these fantasy sessions but she made it clear after the first time that she did not intend to make it a reality. Her objection then and now, as I recently discovered, is she feels I have ulterior motives and will start pushing to have sex with other women once she has followed through having sex with another man.

I am getting ahead of myself a little bit… So after reading and thinking about the best way to bring up my desire to delve into the cuckolding lifestyle I decided it best to bring it up in a non sexual situation. I planned to bring it up on a date night. I downloaded the hotwife introduction pdf from this site and saved it to my smart phone. I have to say I was a bit nervous as date night approached the topic seemed easier to bring up during sex but I did not want the heat of the moment to over ride emotions and skew the conversation. Finally the night arrived and we made our way to the restaurant for dinner. I had a couple drinks waiting for our table and then the meal. This helped settle my nerves and steel my resolve. The waiter was a fit attractive young guy so I asked her what she thought of him.. She was a bit surprised by the question and was not really sure how to answer it. I asked if she found him attractive, she was visibly uncomfortable and treading lightly. I said it was okay if she was attracted to him I was just looking for an honest answer no tricks. She said she did think he was an attractive guy but I was the only man for her. I asked her what of she could have both? There it was the conversation was started just like that. We continued talking through out dinner and I told her how exciting I thought it would be for her to be able to have both. I told her I had even fantasized about it and always became very excited by the idea of watching her enjoy herself with another man. I told her how I wanted to talk about the possibility of having another man join our sex life. I gave her the pdf as we had a drink or two after dinner. Her main concern turned out to be the feeling that I only wanted her to have sex with other man so I could have sex with other women. We spent the whole time talking about it and how it might work, where we would find another man what kind of rules we might set in place. It felt like it was moving towards reality at lighting speed. When we got home we practically ripped each others clothes off and the pillow talk was incredible. For the first time ever she jerked me off to completion talking about taking another mans cock inside her. Normally I was the one doing all the talking but she had no trouble providing the stimulating conversation that night. We actually had several hours of sex like in the old days when we first got together. I went three times after she had jerked me off the first time. She had multiple and unusually strong orgasms all night. I went to sleep thinking this was it this fantasy was becoming reality almost over night.

That was about a month ago, since then we have had several repeats of that night I really look forward to getting jerked off while she tells me about fucking and sucking another cock. She still thinks it is a trick, I have been pointing out that if I was not turned on by the idea and just using it to as a means to sleep with other women the “truth meter” would not be indicating my most enthusiastic approval of her taking a new cock. She is having trouble believing my only motivation is her pleasure.

So here we are not ready to move forward but not looking back either.. It is all very exciting and I look forward to the day she becomes comfortable with making it a reality. She has always (and still does) maintained that I am enough for her. I have explain that it is her arousal and sexual pleasure that drives this fantasy for me. I told her that I want to get back that new relationship energy that was so effective at heightening sexual pleasure and arousal (for both of us) in the beginning of our relationship. Even this much has brought in that sexual energy that I have been craving and we both feel satisfied for now. She is coming around I think and I am taking it slow letting her initiate the fantasy (which she is doing more and more often). Her questions are becoming more related to what rules and how to find the right guy. She has recently admitted that she had a lover before me, that was the best sex she ever had. We have worked in a few sessions with her telling me about their sexual encounters. The last time she jerked me off to completion three times that night (I used her favorite toy on her in-between and she came more times then I counted)while telling me about him. Seems he was very well endowed and had a great deal of stamina. I suggested him as a possible bull but she says she is not sure how to get a hold of him or if she even wants to take this fantasy into reality at all. It was not an outright no so that seems like a plus to me. I love the new open dialog we have and am being very careful not to do anything to shut it down.

To be honest it just does not feel real, I can not believe how well it has gone so far.