Re: Our “hotwife path” up till now. Pls advise what’s next

Hi

About ten years ago my wife was where you are now She was around 40 and like you had never had anyone but me.We had four kids were quite conservative in our lifestyle no partying or anything like that though not at all religious and quite liberal. I read about cuckolding and got excited. My wife wore trousers every day pretty much a conservative don’t touch mum. I started talking about her wearing skirts and so on not thinking this would ever happen. I cannot remember when she bought her first skirt but it started to happen. She started buying skirts and stockings heels thongs as if they were going out of fashion. She changed into a hotwife and started attracting men. Eventually she found a bull and still has him ( see my latest posting ) Believe it or not I took it very very badly I could not handle what I had helped create I was moving from a straight woman who had never had sex with anyone but me to a hotwife who flirted with loads and was having sex with at least one. I had no means psychologically to deal with this . I still saw my wife as the straight woman she was I can tell you it near drove me insane in the respect I could not believe what was happening. It ranged from almost grieving the wife I once had to excitement for the woman I was with. My wife coupled her dressing with exercising with weights. She is a lady with lovely large breasts and these did not diminish with exercise so she ended up with a slim frame and nice full firm breasts which when all squeezed into a body con dress looked amazing. I went through years of pain pleasure moments and soul searching I could not abide the other man having what was mine for free He probably had a great but boring wife but filled the gap with my wife holding his marriage together a sort of ” thanks mate ” sort of moment I felt like the world’s greatest fool why had I done this why create this wonderful woman to be enjoyed by men who done nothing to deserve her. Then it sort of dropped I did not create this woman I merely provided the environment for her to be herself If she really were a straight woman she would not have dressed to attract. She wanted the attention and revelled in it. She also loved me for letting her she chose the man she was having sex with. My advice is she will only become a hotwife if she wants to there are many women who would never consider such a journey but can you handle it if it happens you have been the only man in her life can you let her have another. You may go through years of pain it may not work, the attention she is getting from others may be more than you are providing, you may withdraw and give her less attention , I did that’s how it affected me I couldn’t live initially with the attention she was getting from men as young as 18 to men as old as 70 and everywhere in between. It is difficult to compete with the attention which is given to the new hotwife. Eventually she may settle down into a new her a sexually confident woman settled at a higher level of sexuality than where she is now but lower than her initial hotwife phase but that will take years you need to be prepared for that.If you ask my advice I would say don’t go down this road immediately. The fact you want your wife to dress more sexually may be because your attraction for her is diminishing. That may be down to stress maybe work related issues , tiredness and so on. She has kids to look after maybe that takes attention away from thinking about herself. You may feel she is not as sexual but this my be because she is tired etc. She may take your desire to dress her as an insult she will not tell you that but it may hurt her. Women generally believe men should be interested in them because of who they are after all men cannot dress up to be more attractive and think of it this way if your wife wanted you to be a hotman and get abs and so on how would you take that…………………….exactly that you are not good enough as you are. And say you did get abs and dress in some hotman sort of way and attracted women and acted on it how do you think you would feel towards your rather ordinary wife who wanted you to be like this. My advice is to spend a lot of naked intimate time together re exploring each other and your love for one another forget hotwife clothes and so on for a while see what happens Do something different go to an opera take up new interests together. Women like everyone else want love and attention and want you to make them feel worthy in themselves. They want to know they are sexy to you just as they are. You may say that is rich coming form a man with a hotwife , yes it is but I have found after all the hotwifery that my wife still just wanted me to want her as she is and after suffering the humiliation of almost loosing her to another man after seeing and still having to witness another man have some of her I now at last can enjoy her just for who she is This took ten years so a word of caution .