Re: UK Women’s magazine’Take a Break’ Article

The images were kinda tough to read, so here’s the text in full:

My husband knows what he wants to know

We have conceived through natural insemination. I had sex with more than one donor over a few months. There is no doubt that it is emotionally charged and my husband found it difficult. Also, sex with someone other than husband is enjoyable, sexy and kinky and, if we are going to be honest, it’s cheating. We accepted all of that. It worked for us. I wouldn’t have done it any other way. I agree that my husband is wonderful and I will love him and be grateful forever. But this is how I wanted to make our baby. Bottles, tubes, syringes are just not what I wanted to be involved with when I became pregnant. I don’t judge anyone. It is just not what I wanted.

We’re not swingers. I could never cope with my husband doing what I did, which is what makes him even more wonderful. But our sex life is the point here. I wanted to get pregnant and I loved doing it. The whole process was fun, sexy and memorable. I am sorry if that makes me a harlot but there are no two ways about it. I did feel more fertile when dressed up, having sex all night and feeling really satisfied in the morning. We don’t have any secrets. My husband knows what he wants to know and can ask anything. For what it’s worth, he took me shopping for the underwear.

It’s made our relationship stronger

I think natural insemination can be perfectly OK in a relationship, if both agree on it. I am a 32-year old man. My wife is 27 and we have been married for three years. We are happy parents of a little girl, who just celebrated her first birthday. My sperm count is very low and we had to use a donor. Natural insemination was the right method for us. We both think artificial insemination is much too clinical. This meant I was going to let my wife have sex with other men. And actually I am OK with that.

Of course I don’t like the thought of her enjoying sex with other men. But since I am unable to do my part I think it is my duty to step aside and be grateful that another man will help us out. And if my wife gets some pleasure out of this arrangement then I think she deserves it, considering that she is the one who has to be pregnant for nine months and give birth.

We ended up using two donors and after three months my wife became pregnant. In about a year or so we will start looking for more donors for our second child and we plan to use natural insemination again. I completely understand why some people don’t want to use NI but today we are the parents of an absolutely wonderful little girl and that is all that matters.

My wife has been kind enough not to tell me if our donors were better lovers than me. But I know she really enjoyed having sex with them. And I am very much aware that there is a potential risk here.

This has encouraged me to try to be a better husband for her. I make a much bigger effort now to pay attention to her feelings and needs than I used to.

We probably want two more children so there will be much more donor sex for her in the future. But I’m not worried. We think going through with NI has only made our relationship stronger.

I am so happy that she was willing to do this to give us a baby. And she is happy that I trusted her enough to let her conceive a baby the way she wanted to.