Re: Wife has to ‘feel’ for the Bull

Being a hotwife/cuckold couple without her forming bonds with the guy she’s intimate with is like trying to swim without getting wet.

Said another way: risk to relationships doesn’t come from outside the relationship – it only comes from within. You cannot be threatened by that which is not allowed to threaten you. Women are creatures of emotion, right? When men switch channels on TV, we stop anywhere there are guns, car chases, or explosions. Ok, or hotties. But women, women stop where anyone is crying. I know, a bit sexist and perhaps a broad statement, but essentially true I think. My point is women are easily capable of loving, if it comes to that, more than one male at a time and loving them differently. We male may lust for or desire more than one female, but we generally only love one at a time so the idea of a woman forming emotional bonds with another male is automatically threatening.

The upside to those bonds forming is the greater level of trust and safety for her when they are together. He is invested in not just her, but in you as a couple because she makes it clear to him (through word and action) that she is invested in your well-being.